True, He's starting to realize that love and happiness come from within and that the illusive happiness he was looking for isn't out there. He's also come to realize what he had w/you.
Is he waking up? A little. As for the holiday, he needed to be alone to think about what he's lost. I'm glad he has seen that the ow only want to be supported and nothing more. Life is slowly chaning his rose colored glasses to clear. He still needs more time to bake up nicely.
You may not hear from him for a few more days. He's most likely in his depressed state again. He's having moments of clarity and this is very good.
I'm glad you had a nice holiday w/your family. It's always a let down when they go home and then you are there alone once again. It's time to start thinking about what you want to do over the next few months until spring comes along.
True, keep your expectations at zero and know that you h is still very much the fog, but he is starting to see things as they were pre-crisis.
Hang in there. Happy New Year to you too!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Snodderly, Thank you for popping by and your explanation and wishes. Yes, my H is still very much in the fog. Hopefully, he will bake up nicely sometime. I am keeping my expectations at zero.
Hi Vali and Cinders, Thank you for your good wishes.
Cinders, thank you for the compliment, your kind words mean a lot to me. I am not so sure that I have come far. Sometimes I have the feeling that I have not progressed or detached at all and am stuck in the same old rut. I always have to pull myself up again and push myself to do things.
You have progressed. You just can't see it but we can. It shows in your posts. However, we all get in a rut and we do pick ourselves up again.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi Vali and Cinders, Thank you for your good wishes.
Cinders, thank you for the compliment, your kind words mean a lot to me. I am not so sure that I have come far. Sometimes I have the feeling that I have not progressed or detached at all and am stuck in the same old rut. I always have to pull myself up again and push myself to do things.
I go throug exactly that same feeling...I think it's just part of it all...it will never be the same again, but we DO grow and we DO change and life DOES go on ! xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hi True heres sending you love and hugs for a fantastic and brighter new year, it is a long journey we have both been on, me personally I see no light at the end of the tunnel for my sitch, but for you at least your ex is saying nice caring things to you, keep your chin up and stay strong. xx
