He is at home since Thursday and is doing really well. He is getting bored so that tells me that he is healing and getting better. He will be fine as long as nothing else pops up.
H and I went out last night to a club. We met some of his friends from the prison,,,,no not the inmates but the guards!! We had a really good time. We have been shopping alot lately getting ready for Christmas. This is something I have noticed that has changed since my H's MLC. He wants to be involved with all the holiday stuff! I love it!! Before it was me going and getting everything, wrapping, do all the decorations, etc. I it so wonderful that he is enjoying it as much as I always have!!!!!
YR, Tell your father to enjoy the boredom for now. He needs all of the rest and pampering he can get right now in order to heal properly. He's got plenty of time to be up and about in the months ahead. I'm very, very happy to see that he is home once again.
Your h is one of those who recovered, but came out w/some nice little additives. I think you'll find that there are more of those nice little additives as you both begin to share more and more of the daily activities that were once "all yours".
Enjoy the holiday shopping. It's like starting all over again w/a new and improved h!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I told my dad to take it easy for a while. I think he has cabin fever with being in the hospital for so long. He knows the holidays are coming and he enjoys seeing all the lights and decorations. I don't think he will over do anything with my mother, brother and sister breathing down his neck! LOL
You know, I notice alot of the nice things now. He has changed and for the better. I am so glad I hung in there or I would have never seen the new and improved h! I am very thankful.
YR, I'm glad your family is there to watch over your father. Cabin fever has really gotten to him. I sense he's a man that likes to stay busy and this has "slowed" him down just a bit for now. He'll have to pace himself a bit once he's up and about.
Yes, your waiting patiently has paid off richly for you and your h. You both have a lot to be thankful for this year. I'm very happy to see that he's baked up nicely and continues to improve each and every day.
I hope that you and your h have a blessed and happy Thanksgiving.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You know, I notice alot of the nice things now. He has changed and for the better. I am so glad I hung in there or I would have never seen the new and improved h! I am very thankful.
Thanks for reminding us that there can be a pay-off for all of our understanding and patience. Doubts still seem to creep into my mind even though I have many positives in my sitch.
I am curious, how did your H come to decide that he wanted to recommit to your M? Was it a slow progression or did he have an epiphany of some kind? My H and I have been in MC for 7 months (separated for 21 months). We seem to be making slow progress but now he has a heavy work load as an excuse to keep from taking the next step. I get so frustrated.
Glad to hear your dad is on the mend even if he is getting antsy!
Doubts continued to creep into my being even after we got back together. As time goes on those tend to diminish. So hang in there.
As far as the recommitting to the M. It was a very slow process. I wanted it that way because I was very tired of him moving home and then leaving all the time. I wanted him to stay put where he was until he was sure this is what he wanted. He was in C for about a year before he decided that he needed and wanted to be home with his family. He brought his clothes and stuff home but left his TV and other things at the barracks where he lived for a couple of months. I didn't say anything to him. He decided to go with my son to pick it all up and it has been almost 2 years since he has been home!!
Your H will use excuses for a while, as mine did. He will decide when it is time. I know the frustration first hand!!! LOL
Thanks yellowrose. It similarities and differences are interesting. My H appears to be too afraid to move home because he says it took so much for him to leave (I need an eye roll icon!!!). He did tell me and the C that he wanted to move out of his apartment by the end of the year...but I don't see that happening...he referred to it as his sancuary (his word) just the other night. Plus, it doesn't help that he will be in "trial mode" (where he doesn't do much but live, eat and breath his case) for the next couple of months.
I know you said your H cycled a lot. Did he still cycle after he told you he wanted to work on the M? Even though My H and I are in MC and my H says he wants work on the M, it still seems like he backs off when we get too close. I admit that it could partially be my fault though since I am not always that good at staying away from R talk.
I am also wondering if the "pressure" of the holidays may be having some effect on my H. He seems a little wierded out at the thought of being around some of my family that he hasn't seen since the bomb. My H even booked a trip with his D leaving Christmas day (just like he did last year). I was hurt that he didn't discuss it with me before he made the reservations. Do you recall how your H handled the holidays when you were reconnecting?
WOW!!! Almost 2 years already. I am so happy for you and your H. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Glad to hear your dad is on the mend. Love ya!
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Hi YR, I am so happy for you that your patience paid in the end and that you and your H are happy again.
I am also happy for your dad that he is getting better. He will also have to learn to be patient. He should take you as an example - LOL. Take care and have a lovely Thanksgiving.
We had a really good time. We have been shopping alot lately getting ready for Christmas. This is something I have noticed that has changed since my H's MLC. He wants to be involved with all the holiday stuff! I love it!! Before it was me going and getting everything, wrapping, do all the decorations, etc. I it so wonderful that he is enjoying it as much as I always have!!!!!
