My husband just recently moved in his O/W...He has not called once to check on us...I called him to ask about my child support chit chatted for about 15 minutes... that was 3 weeks ago.
It is like.... he is so over me...us.... I feel used after 25 years of marriage....he just disgarded us like trash... I have been really depressed lately... take meds but they dont seem to help when I get home..
Dont know if I should call him I miss his voice.... but I guess he and the O/W are really happy now that they are finally together after 1 1/2 yrs of dating....
Letting go is so hard and I know I have to... just wish he would call me sometime....
He yanked my chain for 1 1/2 yrs telling me he did not know what he wanted but he knew all along.....her moving there took somr planning...she had been at her job for over 5 yrs. so it must of taken lots and lots of planning...
He just used me all that time he fell back in love with her like he was 13 yrs. ago he cheated with her then to... maybe they were meant to be together... Can someone just give me some comfort I really need it right now
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
So sorry to hear of your sitch....A bit like mine. married 29 yrs and he walks.....separated 16 months he still is ambivalent.I do believe that a new relationship built on deceit and pain cant last...but that doesnt stop it hurting.I dont think he is over you either,they just push it to the back of their minds but sooner or later the guilt and regret comes out.If your H is like mine he isnt calling because of one reason only- guilt.Try not to call him. Let himbe wondering how you are- and he will be.My H is also with OW .the grass is always greener but I am just biding my time,waiting,but most importantly getting on with my life as best as I can.I am thinking of you over in England!
I don't know if this is any comfort, but generally what happens w/ an affair is that the spouse generally finds that life isn't much different. The newness will wear off, and he may look around to say...wait I thought this was supposed to be better...
The guilt may eat him up.
However, in the meantime, you need to do for you. I now how painful this is. Post here, it might take a little time to get someone to pick up on your thread, but we are a goodish bunch, and there is a lot of advice.
I think the biggest part of doing for you is finding things you enjoy to do alone. This, by no means, says that you have to go out and party, or anything like that. Read a book. Watch a movie. Play on the computer (we do a lot of that). Remember, time does heal. This does not mean you will not love your H, but you will start to see the good in you. Work on areas that could be improved, regardless of whether or not you reconcile. It will make you feel better.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
