Woke up with a headache this morning so I'll make this short.
Cold here! Thanks and keep it coming. We hit 30 last night. All I want for Christmas is SNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What do you think it means when someone starts to say something that will be hurtful, but then stops themselves? Is the alien possession waning?
I have one major concern with all of this (ok maybe 2). Depression runs in H family and H has always had a slight problem with it that seems to flare up every now and then. So even if he comes through this and wants to be here, will it come back? And even though I think he might actually finally be listening to me about his attitude towards people, how he comes across, I don't know if he will bother to do anything to try to change it and as much as I love H, I don't want to live like that anymore. I have always said I didn't want to marry his GF but I did. So I'm in quandry. Of course, I won't know until I see his behavior. Actually, no quandry right now, just pondering me I guess. I have learned so many things here and this is just another one I guess. What do I want to live with for the rest of my life? Big question that I am just starting to learn the answers too.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Morning Ladies-Just thought a quick update might be in order.
Ali-you asked about the mood in my home, it varies daily. So I don't get myself too worked up about it if possible.
Today was an interesting morning. H actually woke me up before he left for work and talked to me for an hour. About nothing stuff, you know like NORMAL people. It was nice. But the nicest thing was, I had put the couch together, just to see how it is going to look when I"m done, and a normal comment for him, for the whole of our M, would have been something like, "it would be better if...". That was not the comment today. He likes it. It is not perfect, I knew it would not be and there is actually something about it that is going to drive me nuts, i'll see if I can fix it this weekend. But he told me it looked "decent". No criticism, no improvment suggestions, nothing. So I am pretty pleased.
Don't get me wrong, I could really care less whether he likes it or not, it is my project and I"m the one who has to be happy with it, but it was nice because maybe, just maybe, he is actually listening to some of the things I have said to him lately.
Everyone have a wonderful day.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
I am amazed at the movement in my sitch..even the information I got yesterday. Still, the landscape remains the same, even if things are changing on an internal level for us? (and who knows about those Leo boys). Depression runs in my ex's family too and he has been depressed all his life he thinks (and I always did too) a kind of latent, ever present happiness. I like you, am not sure I could take that forever, although his depression never 'bothered' me. And I havent got the choice anyway, but I understand your dilemma.
You sound good, very grounded, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
MT-I'm glad. I figured since you were writing that you were ok, but I know sometimes physical stuff can get out of hand.
Your night actually reminded me of one we had last year. You know the him thinking you had an A thing. My H did the same thing even down to actually admitting to me he knows I didn't but it still bothers him. I almost think they keep the thought there to justify themselves. Funny thing is in my sitch, the friend that he accused me of having A with, lives 1500 miles away, haven't seen each other in 20 years, which is why he KNOWS nothing happened. Not even EA considering we talked once every couple weeks to months. Didn't bother H at all until after the MLC started. Then suddenly bam....So please stop beating yourself up over something you can't control. I am hoping in my sitch, that as the fog clears, so will the thinking.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Brief alien appearance yesterday. After the nice morning, and phone conversations, I guess I should have expected it. H called in afternoon, said something that I replied to and I guess my reply was WRONG. Ended phone call nice, then texts started, but I didn't take the bait. I answered without arguing and he finally just told me to "nevermind." So I guess he gave up trying to fight with me. Or realized it was stupid reaction on his part to begin with. Don't know. Later, H had S call me to tell me what we needed at grocery store and then got upset that a pic of the couch was on the computer. And went to bed before 7:30. Some days I am really glad for OT cuz I just don't feel like doing it right now.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
I guess there isn't a reason why he would care about a photo of the couch on the computer???? Yeah H has no idea who I would even have an affair with there at the embroidery place. The day it happened the owner wasn't there another guy, came out and said to H, Oh I know why you are here, to see your wife. That sentence for some reason pisses H off, not sure why. It doesn't matter or make sense. I know it won't.
No no reason to care other than he wants to know what I am doing. Period. But I better be careful not to ask what he is doing. That is a no no. So whatever. Sort of in a bit of a funk at the moment. Client has some seizures today and they are very painful to watch. All we can do is watch and time them, and if they go too long, medicate to knock her out. She gets so much Diastat (like valium) would knock a normal person out for 2-3 days and sometimes it barely touches her.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
