"If ever thou shalt love, In the sweet pangs of it remember me; For such as I am all true lovers are: Unstaid and skittish in all motions else Save in the constant image of the creature That is belov'd." --William Shakespeare,
Lost love is still love. It just takes a different form, that's all. You can't hold their hand, you can't tousle their hair. But when those senses weaken another one comes to life... Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You hold it...you dance with it. Life has to end...Love doesn't.
I copied this out the other day from someones thread. Not 100% appropriate but it fitted your post I thought. Remember though our hearts have room for many loves,it is never full.
...hey Woog, did I miss something, what happens then!? (its a Full Moon on the 12th, a potent one too).
So I'm not into all this, its ok to be alone, love never dies stuff. You know what, being alone is rubbish! Unrequited love is rubbish! It hurts! Its not fair! Lets not pretend it isnt and it ok to sigh wistfully to oneself about your lost love. I WANT to tousle his hair and goddamit, I want to do a lot more besides!
Sorry, rant over..at least for you, perhaps its not so much that you are not lovable, or even not loved, but that circumstances have contrived against you. I dont know if that is solace at all, but it ought to be.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Many of us are afraid of alone. Especially at first.
Face it, if you've been married for any significant period of time, you are used to having a partner. And even though we all tend to get lazy and take things for granted, we LIKE having someone to share life with.
But there are positives to being alone too. Especially after such a long time with a partner. For the first time in years you get to make decisions based solely on what YOU think. There is power in that. And far too few of us take advantage of that.
In the end Woog, you will NOT remain alone forever. Those who have had the capacity to love deeply in the past, have the capacity to love deeply again one day.
There is no rush, despite what we tell ourselves in our heads sometimes.
Embrace life. Find the good and truly appreciate it. Work on eliminating the bad. No need to keep that stuff around.
I believe that there are many women on this board who would attest to the fact that there is a bit of a shortage of strong, honest, capable, manly men in the world. So you're a rarity Woog, a hot commodity so to speak. Give it time.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
Woog, sorry my quote caused a rant but I think it says alot. If you cannot love to the depth where it becomes unconditional you will never be content to be alone, or at least cope with it. Life is not fair I agree but is it for anyone,whatever their circumstances. I like Bills post. Being alone is only rubbish if you let it be. I still believe love never dies. Perhaps that comes from having more years and life experiences.
"In the end Woog, you will NOT remain alone forever. Those who have had the capacity to love deeply in the past, have the capacity to love deeply again one day." This was worth repeating. ((()))
Hey naej.. I was only kidding. My sense of humour is what has saved me this year and meant I get invited out places, even when I feel low. We can get used to being alone. I dont think humans are meant to be though, we are genetically predisposed to partner up...Anyway, I have a 7th house Moon, thats my excuse!
So is that an important meeting to do with your job Woog? And then, you can relax and have a drink...
Oh me tooo, and snuggling and someone to warm my frozen feet on & to bring me a cuppa first thing in the morning-oh bliss. I make my dog watch a tv ad all the time when a little pooch makes breakfast in bed for its owner----I know--- you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Oh and scraping my car in the morning_ I hate that job and cooking his favourite meal just becos I loved doing things for him and he loved to eat...... Now see where this talk of kissing has gone. sigh. We are still the lucky ones Woog, cos we have known what some people never find or have in a lifetime of searching. Enjoy your week end.
