Sample of our conversation, she is wanting a divorce and already has filed it but she is still talking to me and it seems like she is blaming me for making her feel guility. Please read and comment. We are meeting tommorow to discuss property and alimony so might be softeing me up for it not sure Wife says: fine, ignore me me says: then belive me when i say something Wife says: like you always did Wife says: you are still in your own mode...how could she leave, whos going to cook, how dare she take money, Wife says: have you really thought about how i feel Wife says: other than to think im cold and this is easy for me me says: Wife what are you looking to gain out of this conversation? Wife says: ill leave you in peace then Wife says: thanks for that, i keep getting sparks of hope, but youre doing well to kill those off me says: you have told me how you feel Wife says: of course Wife says: my mistake me says: sparks of hope of what? Wife says: who cares Wife says: gone now Wife says: im sorry i keep bothering you, obviously you want nothing more to do with me me says: i've told you every single time i talk to you what I want honey me says: i want to work to keep it me says: but everytime we speak you want to tell me otherwise me says: what do u want to do Wife says: nothing.. Wife says: i just keep wishing Wife says: im pathetic me says: no your not me says: what did u guys do today Wife says: if you ever believe just one line from me, please believe that im sorry and loved you Wife says: you said you hoped i never go through what you are, but yourewrong, im going through it and more Wife says: im sorry you ever met me...wouldve saved you so much hurt me says: what gives your glimers of hope? me says: you Wife says: nothing, im just stupid me says: no seriously tell me Wife says: i need to sleep me says: that's not fair Wife says: what? me says: when i ask you something u just ignore or just say i'ts stupid Wife says: i said im stupid me says: i know me says: but i want to know why u have glimers of hope hat gives you that Wife says: beacause im stupid, i cant stop wishing there will be some miraculous change and everything will be happily ever after because the alternative is so scary it keeps me up crying and shaking me says: yeah same here, it seems like a really long nightmare, Wife says: you havent done anything to show any maturity or consideration though
She needs you to change. She definitly still wants to be with you.
I would be very clear with her and tell her that you love her that you want to work things out that you want to change. You don't know what changes she needs or how to make them, but maybe she can help you make a list or something? She needs you to be PROACTIVE.
I only read this one post, I don't have nay of your back history, so sorry if my advice seems lame.
