I've been off the boards for a long time. Not really sure why.
Anyway, like the title of my post says, H and I have been piecing consistently for about a year. Prior to that, we had been piecing for over a year -- very inconsistently.
We seem to be going strong. Although, like any M, it's not without its problems. But we do have a differnt R now. It seems to be one more based on mutual partnership, whereas in the past it was mroe dependant (I was a little needy).
Anyway, they say to keep the positive changes going. Here are the things I've been doing on that front:
- ML often -- by often, I mean 1 or 2 times a week. Not a lot to some, but to me it's plenty. - Initiating ML at least half of those times (NEVER used to do this... EVER) - Making sure I have my own life - Making sure that while I have my own life, I show H in little ways that I like being with him (i.e. watching the Red Sox, buyign him cigars, putting my head on his shoulder once in a while). I jsut try to make sure I don't go overboard on any of that. - Set up date nights... I try to make sure we're getting out without the kids once a month or so. Often times, it's with other couples. Need a good mix of going out with friends and going out alone. - Letting things roll off my back more - Questioning him less (but it still happens once in a while).
ANyway, we are doing well. Just wanted to stop in and say hi.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Aud, Thanks for asking! My anxiety is better. I went through a rough period. I think it was triggered by my deciding to stop taking my ADs. I just stopped cold turkey, which apparently is not the thing to do. So, it was almost liked I crashed back into a hightened state of anxiety.
The good news about going through that was that it made me look deeper into what triggers my anxiety. And by the way, I went back on teh Lexapro. Anyway, I'm doing better now.
That was probably around the time I had stopped posting. I've got to catch up with everybody. I'll hop on over to your thread to see what's up.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
I'm glad you're doing better...anxiety is no fun to deal with. And it's good to have a handle on the triggers, for sure. Hope you have a nice weekend planned!
Congratulations!!! You seem to have found a formula that works! I'm glad you're around.....why not check in on some of the newbies and offer them what you've learned? (if you haven't already)
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sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I haven't been posting much myself, but I do check in from time to time...I am proud of you for staying the course...you will continue to heal, you will see....
Hey all... I haven't been posting for a while, but I've been thinking about everybody here lately. I'm going to drop in and see what's up with everybody in a little bit.
Thinks still on course with H. We continue to hit some stumbling blocks, but we work through them. It is definately work. It takes a conscious effort to make it work -- some days more than others. But, we seem to be moving along, nice and steady.
I started a blog where I am going to be posting about how to keep happiness in the family. I don't know what's compelling me to do it, but i just thought, what the heck. More about that later.
Hope you are all doing well and staying strong.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Dropping in to say hi. I just realized it's been a year since I've posted. UGH.
Anyway, things with H and me are going very well. Our marriage is much stronger than it was before the affair/MLC/hell ride... whatever you want to call it. We still have bumps in the road, but we have a very different dynamic now than before. Different in a good way.
Just wanted to pop in to let you all know how I'm doing. Now I'm going to check in on some folks.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
