"So, please do not say that I am nice enough to be a FWB, but not a wife because you have NO idea!"
As far as marriage goes, it doesnt matter what I think about it. it matters what your husband thinks about it. i said in my post that, "for him", you are nice enough to be FWB but not a wife. So, thats what I think HE thinks about it.
you mocked your H by saying that you didnt get up early for him, so obviously you "have no respect for him". Yet to use his actual words that you mentioned earlier: he wasnt looking for respect. He was looking for LOVE.
"he told me that I act like I don't care, and if I really loved him I would show him and walk him out to the door."
LOVE.
Sounds like you did a whole lot of work for him, without question. But he didnt feel much _love_
A maid can clean up the house. A nanny can watch the kids. he doesnt need you for that stuff. he wants your love. respect and consideration too, I'm sure. But what he's missing right now the most from you, is love, seems like.
Your response might be "Well, i sure dont FEEL like I love him right now".
well, "how I feel right now", isnt what marriage is all about. Marriage only works when people choose to act in a loving way, even when they dont "feel like it".
I see by your number of posts, that you are new here. Please take this as a word to the wise, and meant in the most helpful way possible.
People post on this board because they are in pain. They are looking for a sympathetic ear. Someone to listen to them, and perhaps some insight that distance may give an outside observer. What they are not looking for is someone to argue with them about their lives. Ladybug has a husband. He is well capable of making his viewpoint known. She doesn't need anyone here to argue with her about him. When she explains to you how her husband treats her, it is better to say, "I see", than to argue that she is not showing him love.
