About to become a WAH

[GH31]

G'Day to all of you,

I am about to leave my wife. She probably suspects that I am strongly considering it but I don't think that she really expects me to follow through with it all.

The fact is guys, I have had a gutful of her lies, hypocrisy, dishonesty and gaslighting. I was far from perfect as a husband and she left me in January 2008 but came back in May 2008.

I am still struggling with the notion that earlier this year I was a crushed and devastated LBS unable to sleep or eat. And now, just 9 months later I am preparing to leave my wife and take a job that I have been offered in Europe. Since we have no children, I am adamant that we do not see each other or speak with each other again.

Please have a look at my situation, and tell me if I am a bad man for doing what I am about to do:

Thread I - March 2008 to April 2008
Thread II - April 2008 to July 2008
Thread III - September 2008 to present

I was a bad, bad husband and really in need of some work. I have spent the last ten months purging all the negativity, thoughtlessness, selfishness, anger etc from me and am a much better human being than I ever was a year ago. I also believe that with the bitter lessons I have learned, I will be a much better husband to whomever I marry in the future.

I do not think I remotely deserve the torment my Mrs has put me through this year - certainly not since May or thereabouts.

I need strength to follow through on this decision. Please give me your support.

best,

GH31

[Sara]

GH,

Good luck in your new life and your new job. The fact that you changed your behavior and did not go back to your old ways means that you changed for good. You deserve better than the way the she treats you. You have shown consistently and under pressure for many months that you know how to be a good husband. I have faith that you will meet a woman who appreciates the new GH.

[Loving_Life]

Hi GH,

I agree- you gotta follow your heart on this one- if you're done, that's ok it doesn't make you a bad person. Making changes and realizing how the future will be better shows you've really put a lot into this, and that makes you a decent person. You can always separate legally first and then get the D later. Many people on these boards are in that sitch...