I think the variation is so individualized that it is basically meaningless, but I think there are people on the board who can speak to this better than I. Long-timers, please, give us the benefit of your wisdom!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I second Jack. He replied to a post of mine several months back that was along the same lines as yours. Not a good thing to focus on, believe me. You really do have to take it just one day at a time.
Good answer Jack. Especially for those that can't find the strength to go on. Good answer...
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
having an idea of when it started, actually started has helped me, it also has helped me to know that it will end when it does. Period. Just take each day as it comes. Some are better than others. Jack put it exactly right.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Winnie, jack3B speaks the truth, that said i would offer up a couple of things.... there is NOTHING you can do to speed the process up
there is EVERYTHING you can do to stall his and YOUR journey thru this.
what helped me was not claiming "standing " or "not standing"...after saying both this helped me focus more on me.
i added a year to everything i thought about putting a time frame on.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
