My 29 year old wife going through MLC, this sucks

[SirPrizeMe]

why are you guys so hot to do the alt universe with poor BSC?

[BSC]

I still don't know what the heck you are all talking about. I think I get it a little bit, but I don't know if I want to set up F B profile right now. This venue seems to be working for me.

[LolaL]

Sir: It was a request by someone else LOL, I think it has something to do with my name being pretty easily recognizable

BSC, its really not a big deal. This is a great universe right here...

[BSC]

Thanks LolaL. I am considering it but am just overwhelmed at the moment with life. I appreciate any and all help you have given me and others.

[fisherman]

Hang in there buddy you sounded a little down today. Its up and down back and forth. Listen, it took me 6 months to finally find this board and another 4 to really truly detach. Patience x 1000000. Patience like you have never had before.

You can and will get there. The more you focus on you and changes you need to make for You and only you the faster you will get there.

Stay on point, Keep an even keel and it will come. You and your beautiful children, thats what is important right now.

Hang in there your never alone. Your human and will have many moments. It does get easier. Trust that you have everything you need for today and today is what your focus should be on.

[Jeff3]

Hey BSC

Thanks for the Bump heres a bump right back at ya! Just at work but will catch up later hang in there, Hope you have as nice weather as we do here in Toronto.

Jeff

[fisherman]

BSC,

Lunch time Buddy. How ya doing today? Not much happening w/me. Staying dark.

Your not alone, and yes you guessed it today is NOT the day we quit.

[BSC]

Lots of crap going on here. After 5 months of only talking, W starting working out with EA/OM again last night. Just what I needed. But I can't stop her from making bad decisions. When she texted me I was real mad and upset but by the time she got home I just left and went to the gym myself. Then when I got home from the gym I was calm as can be and even laughed and joked around.

Then today she lied to me and it is too personal to share on this site, but the long and the short is that I can't account for some of her time and I am about 65% sure that she is now having a PA. But i can't prove it and really what is the point. I was able to put on the best face I could when she got home. But she did call me to ask me something and was nice as pie. Probably from the guilt, and she asked me why I was acting funny. I just said I wasn't and that I am fine and ended the call. Otherwise I might say too much.

I know there has always been the possibility of PA but I just don't know how I am going to handle it if it is true. I keep practicing the conversation over and over to get ready.

I do have another question though. As I have stated, she will be sleeping in our bed for three days this weekend when my family comes. I was thinking of saying something like this to her before hand. "I know this weekend may be unfcomfortable with the sleeping arangments but I want you to know I have no intentions of coming onto to you in a sexual way. Lets just take it for what it is and try to get our rest. Just keep in mind that we will be close and if I accidentally touch or brush you at night it is just that an accident"

I know she is a little leary of us being in the bed together because of the sexual tension. Assuming she is only helping herself and no OM then we are both itching for it if you know what I mean. When she was angry and we were still in the same bed she would get mad if I touched her and kick my leg away and such. But right now she is not in that angry place but I thought I should address it.

Thoughts please anyone. Thank you

[fisherman]

Actions not words so much, I wouldn't explain anything your doing or why. Just show her.

Sorry got to keep it short (supposed to be working)

Don't share with her anymore than you have to right now.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

If you can forgive your wife for a PA then you can and have to get through this.

If you cannot, then there is no reason to continue. Honest.

She is going to lie, don't dwell on it. Get through it. Suffer but do not be a martyr.

Sexual tension? Jerk off. That's blunt, but guess what? Not nearly the tension you have in bed with her.

Your pain is exquisite right now, but not unique. The PA is a make it or break it for you.

Listen to me on this. DO NOT ATTACK (verbally or physically, if you are incredbily stupid) the OM. She will defend him and you will have pushed her to him. Your fault if you do. Your fault, sucks don't it? Life isn't fair.