Ok, I've made it to Surviving. Kerry told me I need to bring enough alcohol for everyone, so I guess I'm taking orders.
I gave my friends the word that I'd be here, I hope they can find me easily and soon. I'm also looking forward to the new bunch my man Kerry says are a wonderful collection to interact with. So...
Well to answer my last few posts before part IX locked up, Kerry, Kalni, and bizarre, thanks for being there as usual.
As for me, bizarre, I'll find someone else. I know I'll move forward and someone, the right one, will be out there for me. I'm going to be picky and move slowly, but I'll be looking around.
I'm still young (38 next month) and I've got a lot of time ahead of me, so I'll be ok. On that same front, XW's new BF told D that he wanted to "marry mommy." I say he can have her and become her next whipping boy. I'll also save money in the move and not lose time w/ D. It is a win-win for me.
If this happens, I'll make sure I'm cordial w/ him so when he gets tossed on his rear and blamed for everything under the sun, we can buddy up at the bars and talk about it. Wouldn't that be a swell version of "old home week?"
If that becomes reality, I think I'd pass.
XW was actually helpful today in getting in touch of the after school care program coordinator and letting me know how the program works. I'm going to have to put D in it on Friday, b/c they have a 1/2 day and I don't as well as on Thursdays b/c I can't get there until 4 w/ traffic and my school day and her school is out at 3:30. I'll continue to look at it, but that looks like what I'll need to do w/ getting D weekly.
XW even thanked me for getting all the boxes out of the attic for her to go through on Friday and a trip to the chriopractor and a session of accupuncture took care of the intense pain I had from doing it. But, its done and by Friday, XW's stuff will be moving away as well.
So, that's it for today. Not much except for a new home here in Surviving. I'm happy to be here, folks.
RTL..I'm sorry your hear but glad to have you join us. It's a crazy place for sure..
I'll have a shot of Tequilia by the way.. and this
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If this happens, I'll make sure I'm cordial w/ him so when he gets tossed on his rear and blamed for everything under the sun, we can buddy up at the bars and talk about it. Wouldn't that be a swell version of "old home week?"
is just to damn funny.. I see you'll fit right in here.
Thanks for checking in. I'll have those drinks up shortly. Hey, Kalni, what if I slip a little Bailey's Irish Creme into your morning coffee? Would that make things go a bit easier at work?
I too am sorry I'm here, but in the end, I'm learning, growing, and changing, so in a sick way, I guess I have to thank XW for being lost in denial and an expert at projection. W/out her, I'd be my old me and I like the new me much, much better.
So, I'm settling in and looking forward to this new phase w/ my new friends here in Surviving. I'm also hoping my old friends come along as well. I'm looking into picking up a cargo van and pulling out the seats so we can take the party where ever we want and still have plenty of room for the keg and unlimited passengers.
Hey Rob, Thats funny, a cargo van party of DBers! A bunch of emotionally intelligent people getting drunk! I like what you said about your ex, and WTF!? she may get M again soon? Blimey. Thats one way to avoid your issues.
I also like what you said about thanks to her you are a different person now and better for it, I feel that way too. As upset as I have been, I feel released from so many personal fears and bad behaviours that held me captive for years and I couldnt even really see it (you dont do you at the time?) and he has done me a favour. And look how much you have grown! Are you still going to IC?
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Yes XW's new man (or should I say "man of the moment" or go ahead and label him as "Victim #3?) has been saying he wants to marry her, so I'm really hoping he'll take her off my hands and payroll.
As for me, XW "mandated" I continued bi-monthly counseling sessions and she agreed to go "every 3 weeks." That was mighty big of her and it is clear she doesn't need more therapy than I do b/c she's an obvious rock. Anyway, I agreed to this b/c I'd planned on continuing anyway.
I am different, but I'm still sad by it all. Not permanently, but just in a temporary way as things begin to "normalize" for me now. I'd been spending so much time living in the unknown - custody, the divorce, help w/ house bills, etc. - that now I have my answers, I'm still needing the time to process.
I'm good, but I know I'll only be better w/ time and age. Kind of like a good wine, eh?
Why does everything revert back to booze here? Is "Surviving the Big D" code for saying we all need to be in AA or rehab?
You've been recommended to me to look up, so I'm looking forward to reading about your sitch.
AlAnon and AA would be good for most of us. Whether we're w/ "known alcoholics" or not, the actions of our X's is very dependent-oriented. I think my XW is an alcoholic, but she denies that like everything else.
Thank you for coming on board and welcoming me to the club.
