Hey Jeff - How are you? -- Now I remember... Dry Heat.
Last week was fantastic, attended a sales conference in Palm Springs. The weather was amazing, 90 degress during the day and 65 at night. Learned a lot, met some cool people and did some controlled partying.
Got home on Sunday night and the next day I felt a little gloomy. Too much time to think on the plane. This situation is so strange to me. Six months ago I felt completely detached and recovered from my separation. Now that the divorce is final, a lot of sad feelings have emerged that I have had a hard time shaking.
I believe that my feelings of sadness center around my daughter and the lifestyle that my ex and I had built. I truly enjoyed waking up, going to work and coming home. I miss my daughter, my house and our little French Bulldog Kirby. I do not miss my ex and her mood swings and wine addiction.
Over the past few weeks I have been in a bit of a pattern. I wake up at 5AM and start thinking about the past and I get sad. Then I wake up and it is business as usual.
Pretty normal and healthy stuff, Fish! Often when we're trying to keep our heads above water we push the grieving aside and it surfaces later when we are strong enough to handle it. Don't be surprised one day if you wake up and actually miss your W too! There were lots of good times to remember to, not just the bad. I'm a year into separation and I'm going through much what you are right now. It's called healing, let it happen and keep on keeping on!
Hey guys...I won't say it's good to see you here, but it's good to see you!
Fish - what can I say that won't sound like 'we told you so'? I don't want to do that. The main thing is, you have come out of this OK. I'm glad to see that you are putting kidlet into the #1 priority spot, where she deserves to be. Also glad to see that you are not getting into another relationship right now.
Spend some time in the mirror getting to know yourself - before you spend that time getting to know another partner.
Good luck fish!
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
