Ignore it. Be the perfect dad .... take care of the kids. She may be testing you to see if you can be trusted, or if you will have another affair.
Just work on being the best you, and don't focus on her behavior. She may be sitting innocently at a friends house chatting.
Let me ask you ... are you basing your imagination of what she may be doing until such a later time, on what you would be doing if you were out this late? Remember, she's not you.
Take care, and hope you have much resolution in your new year.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hi all, Just a few notes since my visit in December. I've been kick out of the house, over an argument, nothing physical, have gone to court to dissolve the restraining order, I can go to the family home, but cant sleep over. I think she’s moving on with new man in her life, I’m dating the same woman "BUT NOT HAPPY" I want to win my wife back but have no idea how to do it, I feel that its too late,and so as my therapist, we are going for mediation on the 27th, and have a court date on Dec 2nd. From the bits of information I’m getting she spends at least one night over the new boyfriends house, (only when my daughter is not home)We have had some warm moments this past week, my sons Bday, and preparing some paper work that needed our mutual attention, I canot read how she feels about getting back, she tells me its too late,Ive moved on, but some times she calls crying telling me its all my fault, and keeps giving me diggs about the girl friend. The bottom line is I’m depressed, lonely, confused and LOST. Don’t know if I should get an apartment, live with mom for the next two months, or just MOVE ON. Today is one of those days, I feel like jumping over a bridge, I feel lonely, sad, depressed, and wish I could just ended it all.This is the only place that I feel some sence of hope and understanding, I feel deep down with all the help ive received from you all, I might win her back, but I just feel like given up. PLEASE HELP
So, do I read correctly that you have been dating the same woman for most of a year, yet you claim you want your W back? I'm having a little trouble tuning in that picture. It's not fair to you, your W, or your woman friend. If you are done with W, then no problem. But you can't have it both ways.
You do need to find your way out of your current state. I like to use the phase "moving forward", rather than "moving on". "Moving on" is moving away from something. It strikes me as a negative action. "Moving forward" is moving to the rest of your life. Whatever that might be. It might include W, it might not.
It sounds to me like you are using too much energy worrying about what she is doing, and not nearly enough worrying about what you are doing. Based on a couple paragraphs, I don't see why W (or anyone else) would find you attractive as you are now. But, the good news is, you can fix that! Every day, what can you do to make yourself a better person? It doesn't have anything to do with W, just you. Once you are the person you want to be, then you can start to think about what you want your future to look like.
I think what's hurting you now is that you don't like yourself. Well, until you do, it's going to be pretty hard for anyone else to like you. I think you should drop the GF, stop worrying about your W, and start taking care of yourself. Find yourself first.
Thanks for your kind and straight forward talk, I know what needs to be done, don’t forget this OW thing has been going for the past 2 yrs. I know I had some opportunities during this time to get W back but didn’t have the courage to let OW go. I felt W was no longer interested; I felt that she was having a ball dating and It really irked me. Now what? I have been kicked out of the house, I going to sign a one yr lease for a new apartment, we have mediation this Tuesday and I feel that the window of opportunity is closing very fast. We were getting along well last week, we were working on some financial issues, we even hugged and cried together, all I heard its too late, get your place so you and OW can have better sex, my response, I have no one else, you are the only woman I love and I want you back. This past Tuesday all Hell broke loose, we just kept going back and forth with some damaging and demeaning text messages for at least 2 hours. I’m in panic mode,W hates my guts, OW is driving me crazy, too demanding and a temper that actually “Scares me”. I’m getting so fed up with all this, that I actually think, if I can have the W the least I can do is take life one day at the time, and have fun with OW or anyone else, I feel like given up on both of them. I know I screw up, but I feel deep down if W had not gone the road she did 7 yrs ago we would not be here right now.
I just feel like giving UP, and at times like giving it all UP.
Hello to all, Just letting you know that Im working on letting go of the OW, moving to my new apartment Satyrday,feeling relieved and at the same time sad, knowing that Im the creator of this nightmare.
Ill keep you all posted, but for now just silence from W. Francis
Had a meeting with the W and the mediator,meeting went well, W was cordial,the body language seems like she has moved on with someone else, I feel like S*****.I have also moved to my new apartment, but feel lonely and sad. Where do I go from here. Thanks Francis
Hello to all, NOW WHAT.I left the OW, moved to my new condo,being nice to the W, being a good Dad, doing all that Ive been told to do, whats next, we have our first Court date Dec 2nd. She keeps telling me its over,at times I feel like moving on also, but I love her very much and feel like we are destroying our family.
