I am so glad that you got your feelings on the table. It has been a long time coming. He needed to know how you feel. He needed a reality check. Not that it will even phase him with his distorted view on everything.
I hope your heart feels a little lighter now. I know when I told my H how I felt, I felt so much pressure taking away and I was tired of holing it in.
Wow. Amazing he really has no clue how much pain and destruction he has caused. Just thought you would split things even and no hard feelings. Geez!
As far as donkeyhead. I didn't know of her past indiscretions. Wow. She's just like a virus - jumping from one victim to the next until she can infect them. Gross.
I'm reading a book right now that's really helping me it's called, Your Best Life Now and it talks about ways to restore your faith after other people's choices cause you pain.
[Just a warning to newbies....My tell-off is not something that I recommend. I only did it because JA has been gone for well over 2 years, has not changed one bit, the divorce is practically final, I felt I had nothing else to lose, and it's about time JA heard MY feelings".
MrsH, It was really thoughtful of you to consider the newbies reading along. Hugggggs to you. Hope you feel better soon.
WL, I think that book might be exactly what I need. I don't seem to have much faith anymore.
Cinders, I don't think it will get any ball rolling. I didn't really do it for him but for me. I needed to get it all off my chest.
S7 and I both stayed home from school today. He has a nasty cold and my throat was hurting again this morning, but now for the first time in a couple of weeks I am finally starting to feel better.
I talked with the realtor today. I asked her when she thought we may go to contract. She said "well your lawyer sent over the contract for them to sign."
I asked "what lawyer?"
Apparently JA went and got a lawyer for our closing without informing me. Nice, huh?
Tomorrow I am going to see my own L and ask him what to do.
JA tries to keep me out of the loop on everything. He thinks only about himself.
I did a bunch of packing but I don't even feel like I put a dent in my place. So much stuff!
Yesterday, when s4 came home he told me that he doesn't like to go with his Daddy. I asked him why and he said "because I miss you too much Mommy when I am at Daddy's house and I get sad."
Poor kid. They don't deserve this. Makes me want to kick JA in the....never mind!
JA called my cell tonight and left a couple of messages saying he was trying to call the house to talk to the boys but my phone wasn't working.
This isn't the first time he has said this. So I called my house with my cell phone and had no problem, plus I received other calls tonight too.
I do not have his number blocked and it only happens sometimes when he calls.
Anyway, he finally gets a hold of us on the house phone. He accused me of having his number blocked and I told him I didn't and if that was the case how come he can call other times.
His tone got nice and he asked to talk to the boys. I said to him jokingly that maybe he could tell S4 also that oreo cookies are not for dinner and if he wanted an oreo he had to eat his dinner first.
JA starts screaming and says: You can't do this to me! You can't take custody away from me and then expect me to step in and be their father!
I told him to go to h^ll and hung up.
I then had the boys call him.
I know I shouldn't of but I TM'd him "Thanks again for reminding me why I have sole custody."
When he got off the phone with the boys he TM back "What are you gonna do when they are old enough to tell you off? When you cant control them anymore? When they realize why I left you?
Nice, huh?
I haven't TM him back.
He still blames me for everything. So now he thinks when the boys are old enough they will hate me and realize why he left me.
Am I that bad of a person? He can't see that it might just end up being the other way around?
Don't listen to his ridiculousness. My X sent me the most ridiculous email today. I don't understand how they just wake up one morning and decide they don't want us and/or the responsibility of a family and then we are the nasty ones!!
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
