Wonder! I was coming on to bust Beth but saw you here and thought I'd say hi. I think of you at times and wonder how you're doing. No pun intended.
I think it's great you still have a good R with your ex SIL. I do also with mine and it's really nice. In fact, all of his family still is in contact with me and some of them have expressed to me their dismay and shock that he'd do what he did.
I think maybe for your SIL and others who have lost spouses to death it may be easier to let go. There's a finality to it. We didn't have the luxury of closure. I'm not saying it's easy to lose someone through death b/c it most certainly isn't. But you said they were happy and loving. That makes a difference. In our Rs it was much different. They left for whatever reason, real or imagined.
I hope you're doing well. You sound as though things are going well for you. I wish you the best.
The interesting thing is that as horrible as it was for her, she was able to make a new life in less than half the time it took many of us to even be divorced. I would like to talk to her about this some time. But the point is it was so final. As much as we loved him he is gone, and he left loving his wife and children and we can always respect him and love him back. And she can enjoy the company of someone else now and is open to it.
This is really a tribute to her H. He must have made her love being M'd to him and wants that in her life again. I truly hope she gets it.
In someways I do think it's easier. When a spouse dies you only remember the good stuff. They didn't leave because they wanted to, or leave you with all the junk that we have to sort through in order to find ourselves again.
I have a girlfriend whose husband died and 3 years later she was remarried. I just think that that's the difference. We're down for the count and it takes awhile for us to regain our footing.
Glad you stopped by. It's always great to get your imput. As an outlaw with a family that I was always close to (or thought so) I think it's great that your inlaws have remained close with you. That speaks volumes towards their character.
