My Crazy mess, these are the days of my life!

[Forrest Gump]

"and I am expecting things to be more improved, I do suppose, than what they are..."

I would say this is a solid step. Remember.. you have been fretting a bit over him just showing up. Maybe he is "faking" it.. but damnit.. he showed up. That has to count for something. The last thing you want to be is overzealous here. If anything you should have learned by now.. things take time.. and planning.

I am a little caught off guard by the C recommending dates already. It is not a bad idea.. maybe we could try some of the little outings we discussed earlier. Even if you just met for coffee or something. Propose something that he would enjoy.. bowling.. a day shooting skeet.. building a kennel at his house.

That last one had a little bit of sarcasm in it.

Don't be overbearing.. let him come to you a little.. you could even white lie a bit.. me and "someone" are going "here" and at the last minute they cancel. Or maybe you want someone there with you. Don't limit you thinking to the obvious.. think outside the box. You can do it.. I have seen you.

He is a little engaged now.. and like Sandi2 said.. ideally we want him chasing you. We just have to peak his interest some.

[christarn]

me.......overzealous.....FG....come on!! I am hurt!!!! LOL!!!!!!!! you know me all too well

here's my thought...even though I haven't...I was going to suggest saying I won 4 tickets to local comedy club and invite some friends we used to be really close to, that way he won't feel so uncomfortable...this would break the ice a little...just say when you (H) are comfortable, I have these tickets to use. Thought it might be fun for the 4 of us to go and hang out. Thoughts????

I know, I want to much 2 soon....I am guilty!!!

he is showing up, and made plans for the next one. I want to hold off on signing papers until the next one. The C brought up that him not trying, is him trying...HUH???? oh no no no....I object to that comment...thoughts???? or am i taking that one out of context? she said he just may not be able??? i get that, but our deal ( H and I) was he would try...best foot forward, and listen to the C's reccomendations and use them and try...I truly understand that it may be a little soon to date in his eyes...but he's not listening yet...so i am just a little flustered...ok i am venting now! HELP!!!!

christa

[sgctxok]

worth a try....go for it

[Very Scared 54]

You’re doing great! We all have those moments of second guessing ourselves. I have found that I have worried about a situation for weeks on end, about how bad something is going to be. In the end it was not near as bad as I had expected.

Take Care!
VS

[Forrest Gump]

"here's my thought...even though I haven't...I was going to suggest saying I won 4 tickets to local comedy club and invite some friends we used to be really close to, that way he won't feel so uncomfortable...this would break the ice a little...just say when you (H) are comfortable, I have these tickets to use. Thought it might be fun for the 4 of us to go and hang out. Thoughts????"

Christa.. I gotta say.. you are impressing the heck out of me. Why are you holding back on stuff like this? That is a solid idea. He may choose to go.. or not to go. The idea that I laid out.. you have intact in your mind. How hard would it be to find 1 more if he decides not to go.. or even if you just went with the friends? Bravo my friend Bravo.

"The C brought up that him not trying, is him trying."

She is saying the same thing I am. Just in the fact he is showing up.. the door is open.. just a crack.

The C is a step.. that is it.. hopefully she will be able to steer both of you some. The C will not "fix" this situation. Or the C is not the solution you think it is.

"I truly understand that it may be a little soon to date in his eyes...but he's not listening yet...so i am just a little flustered...ok i am venting now! HELP!!!!"

Look at it from his point of view.. he has been hurt before.. chances are he is gonna get hurt again. Find a way to make yourself OK with him just showing up.. things will start to move one direction or another.. that is the time we look at it again.. Now all we look for is for him to show up.. and be happy about just that. You could be sitting in the L office right now. Which do you prefer?

There's some people here watching you...

[christarn]

Thanks guys love ya!!!

Will give it a shot

worst he will do is say no....and I can just say, well someone out there will want to go

((((((((((((to all of you !)))))))))))))))

christa

FG...me impress you....holla!!!!!!!!!!

[Very Scared 54]

((Hey Christa))

I just remember something the DB coach told me on one of my phone conferences. I had the same idea about buying tickets on the dinner curse. I told you about this a week or so ago. I thought I would tell my W that I had won two tickets for a dinner curse. The coach told me that it was NOT a good idea to lie to her about how I got the tickets. In stead I should say that I had two tickets and nothing else, unless she directly asked about how I acquired the tickets and then tell her the truth. The coach's reason for this was that if she should find out how I actually got the tickets and catch me in a lie it would create more mistrust. This mistrust would not help my cause.

This maybe because of the details within my sitch, but you may wish to consider this in your planning of how to invite your H out with you and two others. It is just a thought that you may wish to consider.

I am going to be adding to my sitch. @ Walk away Wife # 8, I do not know how to put a link from here to my sitch, but you found me once before, so hopefully you will look it over and give your thoughts on what has just happen with my W and me these last two day. It will be farley long and I did not want to intrude on your sitch here. So I hope you will read it and make comments Please.

I hope you have had a good last few days/nights.

Keep your Eyes on the Green

((VS))

[christarn]

Thanks VS....good advice will think of something!!! I was thinking of getting a gift card for myself...and just saying it was a gift...that way whenever we use it (POSITIVE THINKING!!!) I can say it was a gift/or something won....or something corney!!!

Will check in on you of course

things are ok here

my sister has been sick...so it's just been busier than normal

hope all is well with you!

christa

((((((((((VS))))))))))

[Very Scared 54]

((Christa))

I am sorry that your sister is under the weather. With you being a nurse she is in good hands. YAH!! I am excited about what happened these last two days. I really want know what you think. I do not think I over played my hand.
(((VS))

[Steel_Box]

Hi Christa.
I was looking around after being gone for quite a while and saw your post. I went back and read some and WOW. You are strong girl, keep up the fight.

I know we both showed up here at about the same time, and had my sitch not changed I don't know if I would have been strong enough to stick to my guns. BTW my sitch has improved vastly. Hopefully yours will too.

I'm glad to see that H is going to MC. This is a positive, like Forest Gump said - he's showing up.

As far as the tickets- I say try it.

Stay Strong (not that I need to tell You)
Steel