Please show me how to live Please show me how to have a day I don’t wanna wake up now Why do I have to wake up, anyway? Like a soap star in anguish, shrill but bland When your white Lexus comes Around The way Idling in the long driveway Try to feel nothing on command When your white Lexus comes The thrill Be damned I forgive the world right now Still I play the chump’s role every time My world’s the surface of the moon My heart’s down in a diamond mine Like the black stars of Memphis, moaning on, When your white Lexus comes To drive Me out Drive me to the edge of town Try to feel nothing on command When your white Lexus comes The thrill Be damned Damn it to the last damned man.
Good to see you still poking around here. I went to the Fresno State vs. Wisconsin game last weekend, and hoped to see you there. Lots of W fans at that game.
How are things going? Any word from your w?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
no. we havent talked in 3 weeks. I have to call her because of a letter she needs to fill out for our insurance. if she dosent return my call on this I'm droping her from my insurance, as they need to review her claim for her hurt neck. If she dosent respond we can both get penalised.
Saw my W last night at a octoberfest celabration in the city were we first met. we both went to college there and I kept bumping into people who asked how the W was doing. I exspected this, so i delt and moved on. I was at a bar and felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around and there she was. she looked beutifull.she said she hasent seen me in a long time and it was nice to see me now. at this point a female friend she had brought waked up and gave my W a hug and asked show how do you know ( my wife)? I responded shes a very old and dear friend. I wanted to scream SHES MY WIFE WHO DOSENT EVEN TELL ANYONE WE ARE MARRIED!! her friend then walked away.
I kept in mind she was drunk and had not returned my phone calls for 3 weeks. I reminded her about the paper work she needed to fill out for our medical claim and she said " I've been real busy but i will call yuou next week." well i started to get a little emotional, so I went outside.
One of my friends followed and was doing the drunk " counseler" thing when lo and behold she followed us out. my friend went back inside and the W and I kept talking. she stared at me and I smiled and asked her why was she staring. she told me I looked good and it was good to see me again. she then reached for a hug. I told her if she wants to see me she should call me, but right now I'm respecting her boundries and not calling, because she didnt retun my phone call. she told me thank you for that
she asked if I was happy. I rsponded I work on me every day. she told me shes glad to hear it, and shes glad im happy. I told her i miss her but I reiterated i respect her boundries.
then she said the line that, well, bothered me for the rest of the night. " well life is what it is."
thst line says to me 1. I dont want to make it better because i give up. 2. well you cant change anything so why try.
I did get a hug after another minute of small talk, and then we went our seperate ways.
It will be 10 months october 15. God I thought this woul be easyer. Its like she wants a D but dose not want to file the papers, because then she would be " In the wrong." So instead she acts like shes single. tells everyone she " in a relashonship", and I dont even know if she means me.
my friend is a lawyer and he tells me after reading my last post I know what I should do. I guess in a lot of ways I agree. In the sucess storys i always seem to notice a tread
they still connect in SOME way be it kidds buisness even trying to sell a house. ( we dont) the OP thing can be forgiven ( not sure I can)
What is it you need to do Marcum? Find a way to connect or file? I think your wife is still confused or she would have already filed. Right? Your money is already split right? What connects you two? Health insurance? Car payments? I think it was great that she saw you out GAL. To say "life is what it is" is simply saying "I screwed up the best thing in my life, but have too much pride to come out and say it or work to make it better."
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I whish I knew what connected us. I try to give space and she takes it and runs. she still is blowing me off on the insurance paperwork. if she does not sighn im screwed. what i dont get is its already payed for, she just has to sighn the bill saying its not a earlyer injury. arggg.
I think I'm going to be unable to save my M. I have tried the no pressure way but not she refuses to return my phone calls about our insurance paperwork. I have called her three times in 2 1/2 weeks and hell I feel bad because I know I'm putting pressure on her but they will deny her claim if she does not return the paper. I feel forced into a bad place because I cant mail it to her becauase I dont know were she lives and she hates it when I go to her work. I keep the messages very simple ; " Hey W its marcum could you give me a call about the paperwork for the insurance? have a good day" but she dosent even respect me enough to call back.
If it's just a sig they need, can you forge her signature? I do that all the time with checks, taxes, etc... Always with my husbands permission. But, if she can't show up just to sign papers, you might want to call and say, "This paper needs to be signed asap. I understand you're really busy, so if you want, I'll forge your sig on this. But, you need to let me know, because your claim will be denied if you wait too much longer." Just a suggestion.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
