My H has moved out. I had an A 4 yrs ago, H left, H returned, H left, H returned and finally after I came completely clean regarding A - he left again.

This time he has become selfish and distant. I dont know where he goes some nights, I am petrified that he will find another W.

I am trying Dbs but struggling. I want to know his every move, i want him to want me. I know patience is advised but hell this is hard.

Sometimes I get glimpses of hope only to be shot down with cruel remark or a disappearance. Logically I know i can not stop him looking for someone else but I dread it.

Is he just seeking space ? Will this selfish streak burn out?

Is the pain he is trying to run from ever going to go ?

Does he need to learn that the pain would go away if he opened his heart and forgave ?


what will help him with his pain and can i help

Help anyone I am struggling

Last edited by max030; 09/18/08 11:11 PM.