Whoa sawks! Are you saying that you consider yourself "in a relationship" already? I thought it was casual, and SLLLOOOWWWW!
Yep I do, and it is slow and casual. slow and casual is still a relationship..IMHO..
I will reiterate, i was basically S'd a longtime ago, other than weekends, so i think everything comes alot easier to me specifically.
beat me if you must :P
Whoa! I haven't been keeping up....... but...... So, separated some of the time counts as seperated? If it does for you, that's fine, just make sure you aren't rationalizing to yourself. If you are, you might regret it later.
I know what it feels like, by a lot of standards I've been "seperated" for several years, depending on when you want to start the clock. But, in reality, I am not seperated, no matter how I might try to rationalize it. (Of course, I might change my tune tomorrow, but this is the tune I'm singing now.)
Hey Jeff
Well my feeling is that I was very seperate from w the whole time we were together. As I prepare to move out at the end of the month, I will feel even more seperate and I am so ready for it. Maybe i word things wrong when i post at work because i am in a rush sometimes, but i hope that doesn't sound like I am trying to rationalize, just being realistic. I am very seperated, don't see/talk/hear from w unless it concerns the pets.
I know you have a new life elsewhere, but I have to say...I miss your daily musings. Don't go away.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I know you have a new life elsewhere, but I have to say...I miss your daily musings. Don't go away.
hi ((ladybug)).. i figured i would be outed for speaking my mind and deciding to move on with ng and all.. i am glad somebody noticed i was gone thank you that feels nice.
if you wanted to know.. ng and I are into week 4.. and things are going very well.
W really went beserk on Monday when she got back and I told her my plans to move out. She really digs on stuff that happened in the past, ahh well she knows better about me now, and i think it pisses her off that the things I am doing now, i was never ready to do when we were together. Learning experience IMHO
We mutually agreed to stay here until the house sells to give us both a chance to save up for the "move-on" process.
I really like NG and it's very mutual, just taking it easy and day by day.
I am off to the gym, was nice to pop by and see y'all ;-)
I know you have a new life elsewhere, but I have to say...I miss your daily musings. Don't go away.
hi ((ladybug)).. i figured i would be outed for speaking my mind and deciding to move on with ng and all.. i am glad somebody noticed i was gone thank you that feels nice.
if you wanted to know.. ng and I are into week 4.. and things are going very well.
W really went beserk on Monday when she got back and I told her my plans to move out. She really digs on stuff that happened in the past, ahh well she knows better about me now, and i think it pisses her off that the things I am doing now, i was never ready to do when we were together. Learning experience IMHO
We mutually agreed to stay here until the house sells to give us both a chance to save up for the "move-on" process.
I really like NG and it's very mutual, just taking it easy and day by day.
I am off to the gym, was nice to pop by and see y'all ;-)
if you wanted to know.. ng and I are into week 4.. and things are going very well.
Ummm I hate to point this out but in your world you are pushing along time too....4 weeks? your post about the the first time with her was 8/31 only 12 days ago. Only a few days before that was another NG. I still think you are just trying to replace W too fast and need some one in your life.
if you wanted to know.. ng and I are into week 4.. and things are going very well.
Ummm I hate to point this out but in your world you are pushing along time too....4 weeks? your post about the the first time with her was 8/31 only 12 days ago. Only a few days before that was another NG. I still think you are just trying to replace W too fast and need some one in your life.
3 not 4 my typo.. We went on our first date the 24th
and don't take this the wrong way sep.. but i don't plan on posting here much anymore because i will get crucified everytime. I am very anxious for my D to be over and done with. W is easily replaceable, and I don't miss her one bit. Like I said before my whole marriage I was basically alone , and i likely held on because i just wanted someone around. I should have pulled the plug myself long ago.
Sawks, what would be the purpose of removing w from your list of friends? Isn't it your goal to be her friend if nothing else? Don't do anything to hurt her. At this point anything even simple will look malicious.
Ladybug, This is probably not very relevant anymore, but I had the same dilema with FB and my W as a friend. I decided I would remove her from my list of friends when I kept getting notifications about the guys that she was adding as friends.
She emailed me a day later asking why, so I told her I didn't need the constant reminders of new guys she may or may not be involved with. The reverse is also true. I just didn't think it was healthy.
Red, Just my opinion, but I tend to agree with the others here. Seems quick to be changing status to 'in a relationship'. I think I'm in a similar spot, but I intend to test the waters for quite a while and keep things very casual before settling into another relationship. Of course fate has a way of screwing up the best laid plans...
Sawks, what would be the purpose of removing w from your list of friends? Isn't it your goal to be her friend if nothing else? Don't do anything to hurt her. At this point anything even simple will look malicious.
Ladybug, This is probably not very relevant anymore, but I had the same dilema with FB and my W as a friend. I decided I would remove her from my list of friends when I kept getting notifications about the guys that she was adding as friends.
She emailed me a day later asking why, so I told her I didn't need the constant reminders of new guys she may or may not be involved with. The reverse is also true. I just didn't think it was healthy.
Red, Just my opinion, but I tend to agree with the others here. Seems quick to be changing status to 'in a relationship'. I think I'm in a similar spot, but I intend to test the waters for quite a while and keep things very casual before settling into another relationship. Of course fate has a way of screwing up the best laid plans...
Well my bad i left my stoopid laptop open when i left last night, and well guess what, W went and sent herself a bunch of emails that i had in my inbox.. i know because the sent items weren't cleared. So... I still have her password to her email, now i have to decide whether i want to go in there and delete delete delte.. I am so mad at her. I will be doing a seperation of assets/debts agreement today and moving out ASAP. I will be moving in with a buddy. She better get used to sleeping in the spare room or in a different bed because i am dismantling the bed, kitchen table and so on. I was going to stick around as we seemed to have agreed on staying civilized and in the house so we could save money. But apparantly she is not civilized, so she gets a quick lesson in reality this weekend.
As for my new R, i don't mind opinions so not to worry.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Thanks bud, I am an angry one today. In fact the peace seems to be fading, i am waiting for her to send some sort of nasty email to my new girl, and if she does, it's war. I will get the best lawyer in town and won't have any mercy. Do i sound mad? LOL
