Well after nearly two years of fighting the conclusion was much like many movies today! The climax really wasn't all that climatic! I would love to tell the tale of a last minute reconcilation or doubts but folks; not to be!!!!
It took all of 10 minutes to sign the papers and all of 20 minutes to sign the Quick claim deed! In the end she didn't really show any emotion much like she hasn't for the last year and half! I asked her if she was sure this is what she wanted! I knew the answer but had to ask anyway! Oh well, now it is time to dig in and rebuild financially big time!
Emotionally have been working hard on myself for sometime and I feel pretty good. When my son tells me, he misses me, I melt. That part continues to bother me, but otherwise I believe she made the right choice for herself and me! Although I gave it all I had, I did not love the person she is. I loved what she could have been, but she just isn't capable of looking at herself!
I don't think of my efforts as a waste, because if you can't fight for your children and your family; what in the world is worth fighting for!
I will try to offer this piece of wisdom; If they can't take any ownership for the difficulties then chances of a true reconciliation are slim. You can gauge your efforts of progress, or lack there of on actions only! Admitting one has their own faults and taking responsibility for them is growth. Blaming someone else for all your ills is regression. I will continue to grow!
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
Welcome to our little corner of the world. I didn't even go to court to hear of my M's demise. By that time, it didn't matter to me. I knew my M had been over for a long time.
Sounds like you have a good plan in place. Taking care of yourself and S is a priority. Best of luck.
Sorry that it came to this. I sure understand how you feel. Like Jill - I wasn't even there for mine. It came the day after my mom died. It was less important by a longshot.
No one wants to see a marriage die and I sure hear you about your son. Do you have liberal visitation?
Now is the time for rebuilding. It takes a long time. But every day you can take small steps forward. I've been divorced over 3 years. And my life is really good. But I worked hard to make it so.
Life goes on. I think you have a good head on your shoulders.
Hi, I haven't been there, & can't imagine what it would be like. It sounds like you're doing really good, considering. I admire you for fighting for your M & family.
take care
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
