Well, one of the nicest things that has come from AG's crap has been the wonderful responses and visits of posters past and present. To stand. To say hello. To update. I'm so glad you came here today.
And yes, Pam, nothing changes. Almost Gone has been almost gone for 5 years but she can't say goodbye. Just "I'm leaving". Be it the bb or on her vacation. And she emails with Soup and a few others and no doubt begs them to post affirmation on her thread. Silly stuff. Its not positive stuff when you've read it daily for years - it is stagnant. I for one am very worried that she might actually adopt and she is not stable enough to care for a child. She is too self absorbed.
But enough about that. We beat it to death yesterday.
I am so glad that in the earlier days we had email addresses because we sure carried each other in the darkest hours. I got a couple of emails yesterday and this morning from bb acquaintances who had never contacted me before. Through a friend of a friend I guess. But they all echoed the same sentiment "Good for you Barb. It is what "I" wanted to do". This affirmation has made my day.
Nope, I don't like spending precious summer cottage time on this crap. But it affected and brought down so many good people that I needed to say ENOUGH! And I have no regrets. Of course if the bb won't stop her - she will continue. Every one of her posts should be monitored forever since she will slip back into caustic mode the minute she is sure she is not being watched.
OK, when I see her name on the bb - there is a magnifying glass beside her name on her posts. What is that for? I assume it means she is under watch. No one else seems to see this.Why do I?
Sun is finally breaking through the clouds here at the cottage. not a sound outside except the wind. This is one peaceful domain!
I am thrilled with the new bathroom counter. It does reduce the knee space at the toilet but the smooth granite just makes me feel wonderful.
Summer is nearing its end here for me. So sad to say. Every year I endeavor to make improvements but usually end up on the beach just lolling away. Not this year. It was cool and I didn't sun that much. But I want to sum up on accomplishments. Hope no one minds. I'm kind of doing this for my own spirit.
Fixed the retaining wall for $1500 instead of the $13,000 estimate and turned that lemon into lemonade by making a lovely woodland garden and path with lots of plantings including a blueberry bush.(Wonder how blueberries taste in lemonade?) Cleaned out all the closets. New carpetting in all bedrooms and closets. New bathroom and hall floor. New sink, cabinet, countertop, faucets, linen tower, mirror and lights in bathroom. Painted my bedroom blue. All new white wicker bedroom furniture. Moved queen size oak 4 poster bed and night tables to Brandon's room. Bought lovely yellow dresser and night table for Ashey's bedroom. Got rid of crappy old furniture by donating.
Still to do: Wallpaper the kitchen. Must get started. Getting started is always the first step.
On a lesser note - it was here at the cottage 7 years ago today that my H was arrested for DUI (and other not very nice stuff) and our marriage ended. He threatened my life to the cops (how stupid was that?) and they told me not to pick him up from jail. I was sure (and told him so) that day that I would have to sell the cottage. It was a sickening day. And I had the worst migraine of my life.
Fast forward to today. I am sitting in the same chair that I sat in with that headache as I sobbed to him and he sat there stupidly promising to get help. I did not know about maggot at that time - just that he had turned into the nastiest, cruelest H imaginable. And here I sit today, on my laptop in that same recliner. Listening to the breeze, glancing at the 3 cute little kittens sleeping on the mat outside the door in the sun. And I can say. "I have no regrets".
It will be another perfect day. I will chat with my daughter and tonight with Josh as we plan his arrival tommorrow for the long weekend.
Life goes on. It does get better. I would never have dreamed 7 years ago that this would be my life.
I'm so happy to see your having such a wonderful day!!
It does a body good
I'm bringing something over from FLTC's thread from lastnights marathon. No, it doesn't have anything really to do with the issue of late but it brought up another question and I do not want to bring it up on FLTC's thread....he has enough going on right now.
So I hope you don't mind, but I copied n pasted it here, in hopes perhaps you or others might be able to answer this question.
Why is it that we (The Members of this Board) cannot exchange email addresses yet the Moderator can pick and choose whom they email? I believe it's good to take serious issues off the board for discussion as to not upset others who are not involved, I do not think it's good for the moderator to single out posters, especially when there are "Rifts" involved and email those people. Like a third person go-between. Then it becomes a he said she said.....??
I've noticed our Moderator does the below alot. I think it would only be fair for the people who are having a difference of opinion to work it out themselves, if so desired.
Anyway, hope you continue on having "Perfect Days" !!
Give Leenie my THANKS!!
Hugs,
Jeanette
Re: FLTC: Locked But Not Loaded [Re: BarbieDoll] sgctxok sgctxok Moderator
Registered: 02/06/01 Posts: 8707 Do you use the email with which you set up this account? _________________________ sg
KLA 2008 REMINDER: SET YOUR LOVE GOALS!!!
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#1573118 - Yesterday at 10:17 PM Re: FLTC: Locked But Not Loaded [Re: BarbieDoll] Matilda2 Matilda2 Member
Registered: 10/08/05 Posts: 2965 Found you anyway...
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#1573129 - Yesterday at 10:23 PM Re: FLTC: Locked But Not Loaded [Re: Matilda2] BarbieDoll BarbieDoll Member
Registered: 10/27/02 Posts: 9001 Sgctxok: Are you asking me, or FLTC? Just wondering since you're replying to my post.
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#1573146 - Yesterday at 10:31 PM Re: FLTC: Locked But Not Loaded [Re: BarbieDoll] sgctxok sgctxok Moderator
Registered: 02/06/01 Posts: 8707 Actually, it applies to both of you, but I was asking FLTC.
Edited by sgctxok (Yesterday at 10:31 PM) _________________________ sg
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Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Barb I agree. No need to rehash the AG saga. Same as always. As for me. I am doing great. Celebrated 3 years post transplant. Work full time. Have 3 beautiful grand-daughters, 8,5, & 11 months. I never dreamed life would be this wonderful, happy,exciting and full. Dated off and on, but I think I have spoiled myself so bad that I will never meet a person that can meet my standards. I actually enjoy my freedom to do and go as I please. I am coming up on 5 years divorced. I should have done it sooner. All that trying to change myself for him (X-H)was allot of crap. I did change. For me. I became a whole, independent, wiser,person. Even though X-H tried his best to break me. I am a person my children look to for advise and guidance and they are grown with families of their own. Now I am praying that Hurricane GUSTAV stays out of the Gulf of Mexico. It has only been 3 years since Katrina. I know today I am going to have a prefect day. God Bless
Nice to see you here and hear that you are doing well and continue to move forward. Always a pleasure!
Yes, I agree - FLTC has much going on - better to post your question here and no - I do not mind a bit.
I am all for having emails of my friends here. It was a life saver in the early days for me and allowed me the opportunity to meet upwards of 100 DBers on various occasions - large and small get togethers. I will never forget any of them ever.
I thought it was strange to request info on my email on the bb when we are not supposed to post our emails. Therefore - I will leave that one alone. It was a long, long time ago that I registered on this bb. My BarbieDoll name is a second signup name. My original was travelbarb and I registered early in Nov 2001. I have no idea what email address I used.
But that was then - this is now. I'd post mine in a heartbeat if I thought it would help someone. Many people want the right to be able to do that. And it is strange to take it away after years of being able to. But that's the way it is.
Pam, it's so great to hear that you're doing well. You've been such an inspiration to so many of us.
Jeannette, I believe the "no contact" rule started several months ago in the SSM forum because (like here) a lot of people were contacting each other and fighting. At the time, a lot of peeps were got kicked off the board and a lot of others quit when that happened. They've started their own support group in another site.
Barb, I love hearing about your cottage. I "used" to have a lake cottage also. I didn't fight for any of it in the D because even tho the cottage we built was "ours" it was built on MIL's property. I knew it would be futile. Didn't mean I didn't "pretend" that I desperately wanted it!!! In the end, (my MIL's end) my D will inherit it and I'll be back. Actually, she's invited me since the D but since I can't stand inlaws, I don't go.....................yet!!!
Agreed - the AG crap is the same ol same ol - year after year. She doesn't improve - she just drones. I thought with DB we learned that if something wasn't working we should try something new. SO I did yesterday. Doubt it will help. I hope there is no Internet at her vacation place so we all get a break.
I nearly wrote and said "3 years since your transplant" as I remember it well. I was sitting with my Mom during her first chemo that day. And we all know my Mom died the next month. And I was divorced the same week. Another hard time on top of what already had gone down. But you and I picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off and moved forward faster than ever.
3 little girls. How blessed you are! Any dollhouses? Of course that is my first question. It was so fun this week to buy dollhouse furniture for Josh's 4 year old niece. Her mom got her a dollhouse yesterday. I can't wait to see it.
I hope you are spared the wrath of Gustav. WOW - our gas prices jumped yesterday in anticipation of it. I will keep you in my prayers as always.
THen Jilly Bean - that is all the more reason to come to my lakeside cottage. Trouble is that the season is so short. It started late this year (water was SO high) and rained so much. And never really got hot at all.
But there is always next year. And I'm much happier to share now that some restoration has been done.
I noticed that mysterious disappearing thread syndrome has struck again. As an impartial observer I think that proves your point quite nicely. I’m sitting this one out but sending support.
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"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
I like to keep this place a warm, inviting, fun and friendly place. You are so right - the actions of yesterday just prove my point. And I don't care to read it all again anyway. But the blog will continue and the protests ignored until it is so in their face that they cannot ignore it. But it is here today gone tommorrow.
As you've read - this has gone on for years now. No change expected soon. Just a 2 week reprieve. And you might notice that the only one posting to the offender never posts to anyone else. Or reads anything else and makes comment. So it is possible he chooses to keep blinders on as well. And she emails him when she needs support. SO goes the "imaginary friend". Seems too catty for girls - only wants to post to the boys. I remember chicks like that from high school. Didn't trust them then, don't trust them today.
Thanks for the validation and support. You are a sweetie.
Now pass that champagne and peach wine please. Or even watermelon will work.
