Thanks to all for your support. To all...it is very possible that my W is reading this....or ...someone on her side. She knows everything..so..she is snooping. She knows that I am searching for a job and also knows about my banking. It's all OK because this is 'public knowledge', meaning, discoverable stuff, so, it doesn't bother me. She may be going into my car still or perhaps still finding a way to hack into my email.
Legally..still in limbo:
my W wants the house...or at least to stay in it...telling the Law guardian that she doesn't want to uproot the kids
the law guardian found us both to be competent parents
her atty AGAIN...told MY L..that I want to reconcile (don't ask me where that is coming from) and the law guardian said that she and I should go to marriage counselling. ????????????????????????? Recall that last week my W called me vile and disgusting
my L wants to put the house up for sale..which they are refusing..even after showing them the numbers and that the house will definitely go into foreclosure..possibly starting with the next payment (or lack thereof)
So...it just go to show you that LG's don't know and can't know the whole story.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Just hoping that you understand that despite my not posting on your thread more frequently, I offer you my complete support and solidarity in this trying time. The way you have matured and endured throughout this ordeal is truly exemplary. I've known few people that can honestly claim that "they have fought the good fight"... you are definitely one of them! Peace to you my brother.
[*]her atty AGAIN...told MY L..that I want to reconcile (don't ask me where that is coming from) and the law guardian said that she and I should go to marriage counselling.
I think you should go. With the knowledge that the marriage counselor can be compelled to submit an opinion to the court. And get a MC who is solutions oriented. This could be good in many ways. Think about it.
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So...it just go to show you that LG's don't know and can't know the whole story.
Not in one meeting. I think Bworl said this: They didn't see the spuse BEFORE now so they don't see the huge changes in behavior, or the spouse is 'acting' normal for the sake of the meeting.
FIB if you really think your wife is reading this I would suggest you stop writing. Not that there is anything "incriminating" but private is private. You need to feel safe.
No real surprises here. Like was said, meeting someone one time - well even an insane person can fool some of the people all of the time. Not that your W is not sane, but I bet she was extra charming to the lawer.
What this does do is to confirm that the woman has the upper hand in the custody battle. If she wants the kids it is almost impossible for the man to win. Maybe next generation will be different. That is what happened to me - I am lucky for a 40/60 split with my kids; it would have been uphill in court to get anything better.
It is so easy to believe the busy focused surgeon is not the best full time custodian. It is so easy to believe the stay-at-home mom of a busy doctor struggling to raise the kids almost by herself. It is so easy to disbelieve that a doctor of all people could not have the money for mortgage payments and such (he must be hiding money or paying for a mistress).
It all sucks. All I can suggest is that you cut a deal. Going into foreclosure is not good. A credit rating is as important as the license to perform doctoring. But if she will not agree to sell what can you do?? Go for joint custody, 50/50 is better than the alternative.
Good luck FIB. It is time to get it done and behind you.
Thanks Jeff. I may not have a choice about foreclosure. There may NOT be enough money. My number one priority, obviously, is the malpractice premium. No insurance...no operating. Income goes to zero.
I came home from court...pasta with sauce, chicken, garlic toast...a meal for a king. I'm sure she feels from yesterday, XXX1, FIB 0.
Yes Jeff...the law guardian obviously disregarded everything I told her..and my concerns about the safety of the kids. There should have at least been a forensic evaluation and let THEM say nothing is wrong. The system is flawed Jeff.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
