Ok, so our conversation this morning was pretty light. She told me she was reading the five love languages so I asked her if she had hers figured out yet. She said she thinks she's kind of a blend and asked me what I thought mine was. I told her it was physical touch and that I thought her's was affirmation. She said she thought it was acts of service. LOL, I guess I've been off this whole time.
She told me her drugs were making her sleepy. I told her I would let her go and to have sweet dreams. She replied with "nite baby."
She used to call me baby all the time, but that stopped and she hasn't done it for a very long time.
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FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
I think you are doing great with the going dim, not necessarily cutting off all ties but backing off seems to be really making her think. I suggest continuing with what you are doing, and sit back and watch...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm going to respectfully disagree and tell you once again, in case you forgot...SHE'S ENGAGED to someone else. What you are is the OM, and we all know that's not good. Do I think she loves you? You bet. Do I think you're better than the fiance? WAY better. BUT...she is planning a life with someone else right now. If she wants you back, calling you baby, taking care of her, etc...she needs to make a final decision, and end things with fiance...or end things with you. She doesn't get both of you. And, you deserve better than seconds. I think it's time for you to tell her the game is over. You are not there for her anymore...she's chosen someone else. It isn't fair for THEIR relationship that she carries on a EA and PA with you. Like it or not...you are the affair. You deserve better. She chose this...let her live with it. I'll bet dollars to donuts she knows she making a poor choice, and eventually will find her way back.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I haven't forgotten Ladybug, trust me. I want no part of being the OM. I'm keeping my distance as much as I think I should. No more PA for sure, and I'm not too supportive when she wants to vent so I don't think she can get attached with an EA, but that's kind of out of my control.
That was kind of why I made the comment about playing with a dog. If you want it to chase you, you have to run away. That's pretty much my plan.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
