Revenge flings

[Just Beau]

I know I'm asking for it,but I deserve it.My sitch is in Newcomers.

But part of my DBing is being honest.I have to own up to everything.

Right after we seperated,W went for someone else.After a few months of hell,I messed up.Had a fling.Didn't think of it as revenge at the time,but it was.It was one night,and then a couple weekends later again.

My OW and I both decided we felt awful (she in a very similar stage of seperation as me),and ended it.Meanwhile,W seems to have a real connection with OM.

Any of you guys on here,don't do it.It helped my detachment short-term,but did nothing long-term.

You guys must all be saints,because I see no other story like this on here,so I thought I'd share.

I'm so ashamed,but I just had to share,bare myself,be honest.Its the only way I can improve.

Thanx to the others who bashed me in my thread.i deserved it,and you guys knew better.

[lost_in_space]

JB

I think a lot of us here have had feelings that could have caused us to act. We are not saints, IMHO, just folks that have caught themselves.

Thank you for your honesty. Truly appreciate that. It took courage to open up here.

Be strong my friend.

[Dr LOve]

You guys must all be saints, because I see no other story like this on here, so I thought I'd share.

Dude... BTDT (Almost) hey no saints here big guy... I can't tell you how close I was to where you went.
At one point I was invited to go hot tubing with this beauty(we both had been drinking and were feeling no pain). On the way to get my car to come back to the door to pick her up I just took off. I mean it was a split second decision. It could have gone either way for me....(there has been other times also but....something just stopped me from proceeding)

I'm so ashamed, but I just had to share, bare myself, and be honest. It’s the only way I can improve.

Thanx to the others who bashed me in my thread.i deserved it,and you guys knew better.

No bashing.....I think the important part is that you recognize what happened is / was wrong. A lesson learned is nothing to be ashamed about. I think that is one of the "problems" I have dealing with my W. I feel she knows what she did was wrong but just to hear her say it would mean allot to me.

Move on you are learning and doing the best you can..

Dr LOve