My other thread locked.....Best time of my life 13.
My new title says it all. We have made it to the other side of MLC and things are fantastic. My h is a wonderful h, father, best friend and love again. We have grown and came together and continue to grow. It is a nice feeling.
There are many on this board that have made it. I know there are so many that are struggling and heading for D and that yanks at my heart. I was where most of you are. I know the helplessness, hopelessness and the low self esteem. Please remember that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
There are several threads that I posted the dates and things. The important thing is that my h has been home since December 06 or January 07 and hasn't left again after all of the touch and goes. We have made it and if I get the chance to post those again I will. I just don't have alot of time anymore.
Tell everyone how many times your H came and left. This might give some people extra encouragement.
Love ya!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Lets see the coming and going started in April 2006. He would be home for 2 weeks and then leave for 2 weeks and back to the ow he would go. I think this happened at least 6 or 7 times. He would leave without any notice. Things were going well here and I didn't understand his thought process then. I had to stop it because it was driving us all crazy. We were walking on eggshells while he was here. He wasn't ready to come home yet. He finally moved into the barracks at the prison where he worked. Each time he did come home though, I saw changes in him. I knew eventually he would make it home for good.
Do you think he started his way back because he started liking you again? I mean, do you think you triggered his attention again ?
H and I connect on so many levels...and we laugh and have fun and even flirt a bit...but it is known that he is with ow not with me. I mean...I think he feels free to be that way - BECAUSE he knows I know he's with ow.
Am I rambling ?
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Do you think he started his way back because he started liking you again? I mean, do you think you triggered his attention again ?
H and I connect on so many levels...and we laugh and have fun and even flirt a bit...but it is known that he is with ow not with me. I mean...I think he feels free to be that way - BECAUSE he knows I know he's with ow.
Am I rambling ?
Cinders:
If I can chime in if you don't mind. It is not that they start liking you again, they always have. They bury it. Pity and self-esteem issues seem to be what triggered the A to an extent. But as my H said, he never stopped loving me, always had "the desire" but fought it very hard. Then again, he is still gone but still maintains he has never stopped loving me.
I was in a conversation with D16 today and many of her friends parents are divorced and remarried. I was asking her about the op the spouses ended up marrying. It seems that in the majority, the kids who live with the bio. mother, dislike their stepdad or they rarely talk to him. I was surprised. Many have nothing to do with their dad who lives elsewhere with a new wife even though they see him on weekends or whenever.
It was kind of strange.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF is right. They always have the love but it hidden right now. Remember when my h told me that he could trust me to tell me anything? We became friends again. He told me stuff about the ow. It hurt, but I listened. He knew that I was here for him. I guess it has to start somewhere, right?
