It can vary. The guys here are a little different breed so my answer may not be the norm. We are the ones willing to work through problems.
For me, I can man cave over something for about 2 weeks. If I can't resolve it mentally on my own, that is when I would bring it up for discussion (with my SO) to find a solution.
I think it is true about being able to "snap back". But it does take some time to get there.
I think what that means, is when they reconnect, they are not going to "test" the relationship. Unlike women who feel they need to "test". VALIDATE!
I know you are worried about seeing him and his feelings. The best thing I can say is to look your best. Wear something new and nice. And smile your a$$ off. DON'T SHOWN PAIN
Actually it has been just over 2 weeks since we've seen each other, and he has made a remarkable amount of progress in this time, in terms of starting to come out of depression. Maybe now he'll head back to the cave to think about the R. Not sure...however the good thing is that he's made some kind of progress, even if it's not all what I am hoping for at this point. He also said that the more alone time he gets, the less he needs it, sounds about right...
Yeah in terms of seeing him, there is a chance I won't see him at all in Dublin. It would be sad, but it would be a massive 180 for me to be there, and not reach out so I need to try it. My one concern is that I have to go to the house the first day I get there. He shouldn't be there at that time, but he has a weird habit of being home when he knows I'm coming. I need to get my hair done while in Dublin, so am hoping I can do this before I see him. I've also lost a bunch of weight so I need to pick up something cute while I'm there to show off my newly toned figure. Hopefully he won't see the scruffy me but instead the cute me with the new haircut and the revealing outfit!
Yeah I can do the smiling bit. I did it before I left for Poland, and was successful about 75% of the time. I think I'm even better at it now, so should be able to hold my own. My biggest fear is actually that he brings up R talk. I'd rather he didn't and that we just have fun. Look here I am talking about a date that I don't even necessarily have yet!
Thanks for being so helpful with your posts :).
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Actually it has been just over 2 weeks since we've seen each other, and he has made a remarkable amount of progress in this time, in terms of starting to come out of depression. Maybe now he'll head back to the cave to think about the R. Not sure...however the good thing is that he's made some kind of progress, even if it's not all what I am hoping for at this point. He also said that the more alone time he gets, the less he needs it, sounds about right...