Not much going on here... lots of agents calling but no people yet. I still have to put more signs out and hold an open house.. but am still having difficulty with the grout in my bathroom shower.. parts are a different colour.. and I'm not sure if that's because the grout is contaminated in those areas or if they are wet underneath... so I've been avoiding using that bathroom for anything now... it's the ensuite to my bedroom but I use D2's instead... I really hope it's just a drying issue... and I hope it dries out soon.
Other than that.. I'm not sure if I mentioned on my previous thread but I'm rather proud of myself for also tackling some electrical work.. it was pretty easy in the end.. but something that H and I had been living with for a couple of years now.. and I didn't think that new buyers would want to be turning the light on and off in the laundry room by holding a face cloth in our hand and unscrewing the bulb . So I changed the fixture and didn't even get electricuted! Phew!!
Saw H on Thursday.. other than that he makes a point to call every day.. but as far as I know he had nothing to do today but laundry and hanging out with his friends and yet he didn't desire to come and spend time with his daughter.. since he plans on seeing her tomorrow. I struggle with that. I can't imagine "nothing" keeping me away from my child. I understand work but doing a load of laundry and then preparing to go watch UFC or whatever doesn't sound more important than a child... I guess I'll never understand.
I am going to try to avoid H being much of any topic on this thread. I'd rather focus on D2 and I and what we are doing to keep ourselves busy and happy.
Still no word on that job.. which is so strange.. but my hopes are really in the scholastic direction as I mentioned to you before.
I hope Ali isn't right about what happened on Monday (after eclipse) being what will be going on for some time to come.. 'cause I had a really bad day on Monday and I don't want to repeat.
Hugs to you all.. I hope this coming week is a good one.. 'cause I wasn't feel very optimistic this past one!.
Congratulations on being Ms. Fix-it. I'm learning all about toilets. Have to go buy some things to get them working better.
You have such a positive way of going about things. That's something I really admire about you. Focusing on you and your daughter makes life easier. Not making him the center of your life gives a perspective that is otherwise missing.
Ugh.. just got a prank phone call at 3:30 in the morning. Time for bed.
Isn't it amazing how much we can do when there's no DAM around to do it for us??!! Maybe if you Google grout then you might be able to troubleshoot your problem???
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Saw H on Thursday.. other than that he makes a point to call every day.. but as far as I know he had nothing to do today but laundry and hanging out with his friends and yet he didn't desire to come and spend time with his daughter.. since he plans on seeing her tomorrow. I struggle with that. I can't imagine "nothing" keeping me away from my child. I understand work but doing a load of laundry and then preparing to go watch UFC or whatever doesn't sound more important than a child... I guess I'll never understand.
Oh I so know what you mean. My XH is like that sometimes but was more so at the beginning of the sitch. I can't understand why, if he doesn't have anything planned, he can't just take her somewhere. He says he misses her but then doesn't come get her on slow days. I guess we will never understand them.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Just wanted to stop by to say hello. I hope you are getting a lot of activity in regards to the sale of your house. It's stressful having a house on the market.
I hope you and D are enjoying your time together even if H doesn't always make the two of you his priority. I will never understand how WAS can detach just like that. Try to focus on the positives.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I was thinking about you this morning. I'm so impressed with your calmness and your acceptance of things. I was also thinking how much I want to ram something up your husband's, well, let's just use the word "nostril". I understand that he's "confused", but geez, there's a beautiful, sweet little baby girl involved. GET UN-CONFUSED, Mr. Whey. And yet, you seem to stay so serene and balanced. You are pretty incredible. Your little girl is lucky to have such a lovely mom.
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M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Same here... I dont know what happened Monday...but it will only matter if it hit your chart on some personal planet or sensitive point, so I could check (?) but for me, it was very dramatic... I called him and for the first time in 6 months he said "I dont really want to talk"... which hurt. Seems to be ringing true.
I admire your ability to focus on you and your D, thats really admirable. I can see how its unacceptable too that he chooses to kick back and hang out on a Sunday instead of see his D.. having kids is a full time commitment, shouldnt involve taking the weekends off! I suppose its part and parcel of his general air of being a bit selfish and doing what he wants to do at this stage of his life. He may regret that when he's older (and shes older) and he looks back on it. Not whilst he's in it though.
I agree, you are a very balanced, serene person ! I feel like a whirling dervish on double espresso compared to you!
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Well this weekend is our first open house weekend.. so please send out some positivity for us. I think the house is lovely.. I just pray that other people that come through think the same thing. I try to remain positive about the whole experience but every now and again I'll hear my MIL grating voice about how small the house is.. and that it's a bad time to sell.. and that I should wait 'til the spring etc.. And when she says these things I nearly blow my stack! Does she want to come here and shovel me out of my drive way all winter long??? She would say that she would and then never show up and never apologize. It's who she is!
Anyway, my mini gripe is over with. What have I been up to lately. Working on the getting the house ready (still!), checking over and over again how many people have viewed the house on-line, hanging out with D3 (she will be 3 in 2 weeks), groceries and other every day things.. and applying for jobs. Still only had the one interview... but the right thing will come along. I know it.
D3 has been out of sorts lately.. really cranky. She's got a pretty bad cough and she coughs at night... so it might be a lack of sleep crankiness.. she also changed to a new room at daycare so it could be that it's causing her some anxiety.. it could be just an age thing. My gf said that her son just went through about 3 weeks of the same thing and then snapped out of it... or it could be that we're planning on moving. I've been trying to explain to her that she and I are going to move to a new house as soon as someone buys our house. It's completely over her head but I don't want to just throw it at her either.
She said something very interesting when she was on the phone with her Daddy yesterday.. it was actually the 2nd time she said it. the first time was back in January or February of this year. I was on the phone with him and put her on the phone and they just did regular chit chat (as much as you can do with her at this age) and she said "come home Daddy. come home with Mommy. come home with Mommy and D3". My heart broke a little bit for her. I'm not sure in her mind if she just means she wants to see him and for him to spend time with us or if she's really saying she wants him to come home. Likely the former.. but it makes me very sad for her when she says that. Anyway, he was working last night but I promised I would keep her up a little later so that he could stop by to see her.. and he did. But that's enough about him for this posting.
Hope all is well with you wonderful people!
Hugs, W2G
PS. I love that you think I sound/seem serene... most of the time I'm just resolved to the fact that this is my life now.. and although it's not what I wanted and it kinda sucks I have to deal with what's thrown at me. As for Monday, I was just in a pisser because a certain someone would rather sit poolside with buddies then spend time with my daughter.. and that can get me in a little bit of spin.. and I don't like it when I go there.
. So I changed the fixture and didn't even get electricuted! Phew!!