I wasnt going to post but...

[kikifree]

Hi, I havent been her in awhile but now i am aggravated.

H and I have been getting along really well.

Today is his dad's bday . I texted him to wish him a happy bday from D7 and I .
He didn't answer so I texted are you ok///

I got this response:

It is also Sarah's bday and we are out celebrating. I dint hear the phone. Ill tell him

Now, H 1. NEVER mentions OW's name to me.
2. He was supposed to work today because he is going out on vacation next week.
3. H would NEVER let me know he took the day off ..espeacially because he claims he is broke and would not take a day for D7.

I responded.

H would never text me that. How sad and insecure. Happy Bday Sarah. Tell H to callme later when he is free. Have a good one.

I get a text back;

It's me , I took the day off.

I responded:

You have never or would have mentioned her name to me. Whatever.
I am so aggravated over this. He would never want me to know that he took the day off of work. And believe me he would never have used the word CELEBRATE!

We have been doing sooo well too.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

It is also Sarah's bday and we are out celebrating. I dint hear the phone. Ill tell him

That implies it wasn't him at all.

Sorry Kiki.

And what are you going to do this weekend?

[girlfromipanema]

That implies it wasn't him at all.

I'm so sorry too. You deserve so much better. I can't recall if you are seeing a counselor to help you through this. I think it would be very beneficial to you.

I took that as him saying he would tell his dad...? One thing I have learned is you can never really know what is going on in the spouse's head.

[kikifree]

Thanks Jack and girl,

This weekend I am enjoying my time with my daughter. A birthday party on Sunday. All is well. I just gett so poed!! This too will pass.

but I know it wasnt him and he knows that was not the right thing to do.

What can you do, you know.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Make it till tomorrow. ; )

[naej]

Yes I took it to mean that H would tell his Dad.
Just goes to show how we all read different things, bit like Chinese Whispers.

I am sorry you are hurting, the people we thought we knew and loved change. Nothing we can do except live our lives.

[kikifree]

I will jack. I will make it no matter what. Thanks for coming by naaj. He did mean tell his dad. I am not hurt really. Just poed that OW had to get involved. How sad for her.

D7 told me when daddy was gone OW was looking at pics I gave him..INSECURE or what????

[peacetoday]

Kiki
Hi sorry for your pain today-
since you and H have been getting along well
try to let it go
keep allowing for a friendly R with H
also do some nice things for you and keep moving forward with your life as you have
peace

[kikifree]

Hi Peace..how are you doing? Im sorry your H filed but it is all part of the process.

I have let it go.

OW will not get to me.

H and I have been having good contact before this. I will not let it change....yet.

[Cinderellaman]

Yes I took it to mean that H would tell his Dad.
Just goes to show how we all read different things, bit like Chinese Whispers.

I am sorry you are hurting, the people we thought we knew and loved change. Nothing we can do except live our lives.

Hey Kiki...I'm so sorry that must have hurt. I did take it to mean the same as Naej ..;

Let it go again, and back to Kiki with a wonderful life ! xxx