It's amazing what time does.

[Sevens]

Most of you probably don't remember me. I went through a divorce in 2004 with my now ex-wife. She was a LD partner and I was HD. I read SSM and tried to convince her to do the same. She never would. Months would pass and there was little to no physical contact between us. One day, I decided I had enough and I left. Never to return. We were divorced very shortly after that.

Fast forward to today and I have re-married and my new wife of 2 years is a WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, UNBELIEVABLE woman. She's everything I deserve in a partner both sexually and emotionally.

I came here just to see some of my old posts as I have a friend who's having hard times with his girlfriend. I thought I'd grab a few articles from this website that I found helpful back then.

What I've come to realize after my visit here is this... I don't recognize the person that posted all those messages 4-5 years ago. I've read a bunch of my old posts and I don't even know who that guy is.

So for those of you out there struggling in an SSM or those with a WAS. Do yourselves a favor, and start living your life for yourself. Get out there and get a life. Laugh. Hug your kids and spend QUALITY time with them. Don't just use them for a distraction. The only person you can change is you. And the sooner you do that, the better off you'll be.

Best of luck to you all.

[Strong&Alive]

Sevens,

Thanks for dropping by - you were before my time!

Glad to here of your sexcess.

S&A

[sgctxok]

Hi Sevens, thanks for checking back. I'm glad you're happy now.


It IS important to make yourself happy and enjoy your life.


It's possible for many to work through it .... as well!

You CAN change the way your partner interacts with you. You do it by changing the way YOU interact with your partner.

[Sevens]

Hi sg, I wasn't insinuating that my way is the only way you'll ever be happy again. Certainly some couples can work through their problems and I wish them all the success in the world. What I found out about my previous marriage however is that it wasn't so much a sex starved marriage as much as it was a loveless marriage. Myself included. I thought I loved her. I did not. I was in love with the idea of what I wanted with her. In retrospect, I didn't know what it felt like to love and to be loved until now.

There is an old Garth Brooks song that talks about thanking god for unanswered prayers. Now I'm not a religious man, but if I had been able to fix my previous marriage I would have never been lucky enough to find my wife.