well i may have pushed a little but its ok- ill back off now. i texted my H to come over last night at around 8:30- just said hot tub and a glass of wine? well he replied this morning and said he didnt get it til today...so i just said "morning!"..and he replied hello...so we are back on track. ididnt ask him anything.. i guess i am just feeling so good about things and i am so lovey dovey but I really need to keep my GAL'ing up. i can feel it slipping and im getting a little depressed...just a tiny bit.
im going to snap out of it....now!
Last edited by pisces9; 08/07/0805:28 PM.
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Well done with not getting upset! I don't blame you for getting a little depressed, but it sounds as though you handled it really well, and I'm sure your H noticed how even keel you were.
Who knows, maybe today he will ask if the invitation is still open? Just remember how great it is that you're in the place where it is OK to start inviting your H to do things, even if he doesn't always take you up on them!
I bet you'll snap out of this one quickly!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hey look at the good side...you didn't follow the text up with others texts like "hey did you get my text" or phone calls....you played it cool.....well done!
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
TD- i know- i wanted to BUT i watched project runway instead and just laughed at the crazies! i think we are on a good track here...i just need to be careful- i can feel my PUSHING coming out! ahhhhhhhhh!
ITH- thank you! thats very true...we have plans for sunday anyway..i just want to see him sooner again- jeez..give me and inch i take a mile!
things are really improving and i can almost say we are on the track to piecing! when i jokingly asked the other day when he was coming home- he hugged me and said im not sure about that yet...but he hugged and hugged me! and he didnt say anything negative or in the past.
also- one more point- when we were talking he was very clear and not wishy washy...he used to always be wishy washy and say i dont know to me A LOT. i havent heard that ONCE yet! i really feel he is turning into a MAN and escaping from his ideas about being a single dude without a commitment! HA HA!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
things are really improving and i can almost say we are on the track to piecing! when i jokingly asked the other day when he was coming home- he hugged me and said im not sure about that yet...but he hugged and hugged me! and he didnt say anything negative or in the past.
Great news.....looks like he was very thankful to know that the door was truly open....probably helped answer a lot of questions in his mind that he was afraid to ask.....
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Great news! And a 180 too!! Not sure if the others will agree with me here but this is what I think...you need to lay low and go just a little dim...no invites for the rest of the weekend (but if he invites you accept) and when you see him Sunday be warm, loving and affectionate.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
yep! thats my plan Jen...dimmer switch is on! he knows how i feel and i think this is a very important time for him to evaluate things at his own pace and timeline.
my DB coach said be careful you dont get ahead of him bc he will trip you...thats very true..almost like i test it...crazy brain!
thanks Neil- i did find some great cheese....very high end and worth the wait!
TD- so you think he was afraid to ask to come back? not sure if i wanted that yet? is that what you mean? i guess i say so much here and in my head..i dont say any of it to my H so it seems as if he would already know..I WANT YOU HOME!
PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
TD- so you think he was afraid to ask to come back? not sure if i wanted that yet? is that what you mean? i guess i say so much here and in my head..i dont say any of it to my H so it seems as if he would already know..I WANT YOU HOME!
Yup....I think it is somewhat a pride thing, not so much afraid as possibly a little embarassed at having to admit he might have made a mistake (coming back with the tail between his legs syndrom). Even by joking around about it, you have shown quite a bit of grace.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
YAY! im so happy ! not bc he has his tail between his legs- ha ha! but that makes sense...im happy i said it...now he knows and i dont have to say i t again... icant wait til he says it...BUT-
here is another thing...when he said he wasnt sure yet- i said 'i know- you arent sure where home is'...not meaning us, but meaning where we live. im not kidding when i say close to my parents...a few houses away- they own multiple homes and arent always in it but enough to be annoying-...so he really feels stifled here..so im not sure if he will want to move before we rekindled our flame...but he will get to tell me that..i made it clear that i know it was/is an issue and i want to move too- not far..but maybe a few miles away! ha ha!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
