PH any ideas of when you might hear from your h again? Did you look hot when you met up with your h the other day? I know I try to look my best when I see my h, but it's really for me just because I like to dress up.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
glam, I think I looked hot - light make-up, body-hugging tank top and sarong skirt, and cute slippers. I know he was looking from time to time.
No idea when I would hear from him again. My stepson emailed me tonight saying he left his watch in my car and aske dme to either mail it or give it to his Dad next ime I see him. The boys leave on Thursday. Not sure where he wanted me to mail it - to my H's and to the boys' home out of state.
Anyway, I just looked in the car, and found the watch. I will ask my stepson where he wants me to mail it.
I think I will send my H an email, thanking him for bringing the boys over, for dinner and for asking if I still needed the help with lifting the heavy stuff (even though I already took care of it myself).
I would e-mail him thanking him and then mention that so and so left a watch in your car and ask if he would like you to drop it off at h's place before they leave town.
A nice gesture on your part.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
glam, He would not want me to drop off the watch at his parents' house. He's been very adamant about me not visiting his house or seeing his family. I wish I could do that.
Yes, do send him an email thanking him. Good idea. They do like hearing from us.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Maybe in the thank you email you could mention the watch and ask him if wanted to meet you somewhere to get it. That way you are meeting on "neutral" ground.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I did end up emailing my H. I guess he read it because he called in the afternoon and asked me when I would be home from work. Told him I had a chiropractor appointment and would be home by 8pm. He said he'd drop by - at firt I thought he was inviting me to join them at a games place (where they can use a gift card I gave the boys). I asked if he saw his email or stepson's email, about the watch. He said yes, they were coming to pick up the watch. Then ended the call with "Thanks so much" - so formal and distant, I thought.
Anyway, they showed up a little after 8pm. They got here just when the handyman was leaving so at least he knows I wasn't lying baout the VM the other night.
We had alot of fun playing with our dog. I served the boys some ice-cream and candy. They loved that.
Found out that my H bought an electric balancing mat to work out and lose weight. I also noticed he looked at his phone tonight. I asked if he was expecting a call. He said "No". He did that with his phone the other night too... What's up with that? I was wondering if he's losing weight to impress someone...
Anyway, no attempt on his part to be affectionate. Got a small brief side hug when they left. Got warmer hugs from the boys. One of my stepsons hugged me SO tight, like he really didn't want to let go. They had stayed a little over an hour and the boys didn't want to leave at all. One of them said "See you in the winter."
I so pray that God is working behind the scenes on my H.
Wow--he called and they came over. What a nice treat for all of you.
Concentrate on your prayers, that God continue to soften hardened hearts.
I am glad all of you had a good time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Steelers, Thanks. It's actually hurtful to him apparently still hard-hearted about being distant. I can't decide what's worse (1) being intimate and leave, or (2) not initiating affection/intimacy. But then he might also be feeling rejected himself because I didn't initiate any affection. I didn't want to since I think he should take the lead especially since he was the one who told me to move on....
I have been praying, and will continue.
BTW, had another challenging day at work. Deadline coming real close and they are putting on more pressure on me. I have never felt anyone place so much pressure on me before about work - talk about "super micro-management". It really irks me.
