Lrt VI midlife criis gotta be patient

[craig54]

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[craig54]

i believe my wife is in the withdrawal stage of mlc. she seems to like to be by herself in her trailer.she called this morning and asked what we were doing, i told her not much, i just got home from church and turned on the nascar race, she said she was watching it too. i told her , if your want, you can come over and watch it here. she said no, i am comfy with my blanket , i might come over later. i said ok.

[craig54]

My wife came over and did her laundry, she seemed in a very bad mood.very angry, no patience. i tried to liven it up a little bit, but to no avail. once again she spent 15 minutes looking on the computer at local rentals.i have no idea why. she knows the only way she can move into a real house or apartment is if we sell our house. yet she has made no effort to even get the house ready to sell. confusion.

[craig54]

Observation,

My wife is hurting, i can really tell. She has dug herself a hole and cannot seem to climb out.I am worried about her.I see her spending more and more time by herself in the trailer, which she hates. She seemed really peturbed with me yesterday, snapped at almost anything i said.She has not been feeling well the last month. She says she wants the divorce, but cannot finish. She wants to sell the house, but has put no effort into getting it ready. This is painful to watch. She is in God's hands.i will continue to pray for her protection.

[forward]

Craig, I have wondered if my H is in the withdrawal stage, too, but it is so hard to tell.

You sound as if you have been kind to her and that is a positive.

[craig54]

Breton, It was just a educated guess on what stage my wife actually is in.

We actually get along very well. I am trying to love her no matter what she does or says.

[forward]

Craig, that is good. That is real love.

[smith18]

Craig,

You are a real inspiration to have continued on this long waiting for your wife. I think you are doing great by holding off on any serious talks with her. Only she can help herself come out of it and enjoy life.

I noticed your occasional responses to LostPhil and all I can think is that guy cant be reached. I think it is the nature of most people to try to want to help him, but I truely believe he is a lost cause. Here is an interesting clip from the Cool Hand Luke movie that reminds me of Phil...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZOIsqvtXAg

[craig54]

Kerry,


Yes i have tried to help Phil. But he feels his way is the only way. He is one stubborn man.

As far as my wife, she rarely, if ever brings up any r talks. When she is ready, i will be here waiting to listen. I owe it to my children and my wife, even though she does not know it, to wait for God's will for our situation.

[craig54]

My daughter just informed me, that according to her mother the reason she has not completed the divorce paperwork is because she did not want to hurt my feelings. HUH!!! I know she doesn't like to talk about the paperwork in front of me . If she had just finished the paperwork the divorce would have been final last month.I love my wife, but right now i certainly don't like her much. She is negative about everything.Angry, unhappy, complains about everything. I don't enjoy being around her.