I assume she was trying to figure out what you have been doing with your time these last few weeks. And that she tought you would just slip up and tell her now.
Anyway why does it matter now if she knows? I may have miss this but does it really matter?
nah, it's not that. She knows I'm going back to my hometown, she knows I'm working on a house to move into. She does not have an address but I'll make it available when I move and start visitation with my D. It's all about the drama..it's all about control..it's all about her being a "victim".
Somebodies got to a be a victim right??
A corn fed buddy helped me figure that out. If they feel they can conrol things then that gives them not only (they think) great power but it also justifies in their mind that they are "right" and we are "wrong"
the cooler is by the door..better grab it before Bethie drops back in.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 08/06/0804:10 PM.
Was that nice? We'll have none of that talk so early in the morning. Oh and by the way, you're out of beer. Just a guess!
I agree with Racefan, it is all about control. She obviously feels that she has no control in other areas of her life so she's still trying to take it from wherever she can. I'm divorced for a year and I'm still going through it.
Your are the Dad and you do have rights. She's treating you as if you are a sitter who has to be kept tabs on. Sheesh!
I get the same thing from my W. Not only that but she has tried to set the itinerary for how I spend time with my kids ("You go to ___'s house for ___'s birthday party at 11, then after that you can take them to ____ to do such and such, then make sure S3 gets a nap by 3 o'clock, then you can take them to the park....")
It is no wonder why she gets so angry when I chart my own course now. And yet she still resists the notion that she is a control-freak.
Hey Mike! Yes, I am still alive and kicking. CW said you asked about me - I will have to update my thread - I haven't posted for about a month - I hit realizations quickly once I started to figure things out. My WAW was not coming back, no matter what I was going to do. Not my choice, not my path I wanted to take. A couple of months back, she basically said there was no hope - so we are seeking out mediation and should be filing soon.
As you read, CW and I spend time together - although not a crutch, what a great support for both of us as we go through this sitch that nobody on this site wants to go through. Lot's of realizations - but like I said, I will have to post on thread so I don't hijack yours!
I was reading your thread today, the saga continues. I truly believe I am walking a much stronger person through all of this. I am lucky that my kids are older and we don't have to really see each other - that is huge in the healing process for me.
Take care buddy - I will keep reading the posts and CW will keep in the loop as well.
Funny, I am so tired of everybody telling us (LBS) that it will get better - I want to say "duh" - but non of us want to be here and would much rather work on the relationship - you were instrumental to me in my process - I thank you for that.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Your time with our daughter is your time. It's your choice how you respond to your wife. She's probably nervous about being alone without her; Mom's get that way. You know me, I usually always see the positive.
