No problem Lost...in fact, go and check out that Nice Guy book the guys are talking about. I haven't read it but have read excerpts and I have stalked their message board a little bit (yes I have seen you there, Silly!) I can attest that if this sounds like you, it is imperative to get that worked out and fix it!
Women want a strong man. If you haven't been that up until now, figure out how to do so. You will be better off for it, whether you remain married or not. Hopefully, your wife will benefit from it and you two can work this thing out.
Yea, I've got the book and need to read it again and do the excercises in it. No, you haven't seen me on the their site as I've never posted there. I'm sure there are many like me on there though.
I'll hang in there and like I said, I'll post more when I get a chance.
Go figure!!! The wife fell asleep on the couch again last night, but at this point in time I can figure that as a given on most every night. Early this morning, I'm awakened by her being all over me and in a very playful, touchy-feely kind of way. Great! Except it's about 5 minutes before my alarm is set to go off and of all the days that I can't be late for work or can't call in...this is one of them.
Go ahead and laugh at my fate, because that's about all I could do.
Still working on this guys...trying to right what I've been doing wrong. More later.
Lost - Time for a quickie ...sorry I couldn't resist.
Here's an idea: Maybe you should try setting your alarm a little earlier and be the one to wake her up on the couch? DQ might chime in with her opinion on this.
1. You said you two have not had sex since the interupted time in January...so she is FINALLY probably horny by now. Yes, some LD's do finally get horny after 6 months.
2. Women are psychic, you know that, right? She probably *feels* that something is up with you right now and she has an inkling that it has to do with sex.
However...be careful how you tread! In fact, if you are garnering the cajones to give her the letter in the near future, I would turn down the sex (if she comes back around for some) and when she acts confused, you can say "actually, I have been meaning to talk to you about this" and you can open the door to scheduling a meeting to talk or just give her the letter then. Then it will be perfect timing to point out to her that it has been since January (7 MONTHS) since you two had sex. Faced with this fact, she will be more likely to listen to you.
If you just accept the sex without saying anything, you run the danger of losing sight of your resolve on the matter and not giving her the letter.
Ok, so now I've read your above post a day too late. Where do I sit now that I've reset the clock? Come back and talk to you...oh, say February? LOL. No, seriously...what now?
Reading your situation, I feel like I am looking at a mirror of myself from last year. I'm liking the advice that DQ and Baghera are giving you. It's a lot of the same stuff that I got on here when I originally started posting. If you get bored, you can probably still find my original threads. I've since re-registered but I want to say my screen name was Imconfused0807. I'll check back with ya, but I think you are in pretty good hands with DQ.
DQ...btw, you have a very similar posting and writing style to a good friend of mine that once posted here and has since moved on. She had some brilliant advice as well.
-IC
"you can't see what you can't see until you visit ftio.com"
...sorry I couldn't resist.