Sandi~ Work...that's been it this past week...worked 3 12's and an 8...which is enough to drive the most insane over the edge!!! Friday...I ran errands all day...one of which included....orientation to Grad School...YEAH!!! They called me weds. and asked if I wanted to take classes as a "student at large"...aka on probation...I was like...hell yeah!I feel as if that opportunity fell in my lap for a reason...and I'm sooooo excited about it! I have said since day one of nursing school that I wanted to teach nursing....need an MSN(masters in NSG) to do that...so here we go!!!
So between work and jumping thru some hoops....it's been a chaotic but exciting week!!!
I hope you and Ken know I'm just teasing!!
My dearest friends...who have adopted me and my sister...daughter turned 21 yesterday...we(me and my sister) we refer to her as our little sister...it was soooo much fun.
hope all is well with everybody! hugs Christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
Yeah, I knew you were just playing. I tend to get myself into trouble by teasing and joking around...lol. Anyway, congrats on the opportunity! When you get to do this teaching nurses, will you be traveling around the country? The reason I ask is b/c I know a lady that does that.
Well, nothing much has been eventful in my life either, just as you say, work and that's about it. I think sometimes I spend too much time trying to post to so many people. I get side-tracked and fail to keep up with some that I started out with, and that makes me feel like I left them.....but think I may be spreading myself a little thin. However, that is what I want to do, so until I have something else, I will continue to try to hang around.
Have you had anymore contact with your H?
Talk later, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hey christa -- just peeking in to say hi! Haven't been around for quite awhile, and don't really plan to be. Just thought I'd see who was still around and touch base.
"Ok, here are my thoughts/opinions/conjecture on this "how to ask a man..." business. I don't think it's a formula."
I do. I think everything has a formula to it.
"To be honest, I think that this has nothing to do with a lack of communication; I think people communicate freakishly well no matter how accidental it is."
Communication has everything to do with it. See.. we don't understand.. when we are communicating "freakishly".
"Our perception tends to filter out that which makes us anxious;"
And it makes it more apparent.
"people avoid being aware of sending out negative message just as people avoid being aware of what those negative messages mean."
And it makes it more apparent.
This is what Christa will do.. when her husband calls.. or shows up.
"The responsibility lies on us as individuals to be more self-reflective and more self-aware; to see these patterns"
I agree.
"So, all that to say, until a man truly understands himself and why he acts in certain ways, nothing you do will be satisfying."
Especially if you think.. he is already not satisfied.
"You will either continue to act rigidly for reasons that are unknown to you and be bitter that you are not getting results. Or you will violate yourself and change all in an effort to make your man do what you want because you NEED this to be so for YOUR functioning."
I agree! 110% Amen.
"but out of love and self-sacrifice you are willing to be flexible because you WANT to connect with your man."
He may not respond. Are you OK with that?
"One path leads to the freedom to connect with your man and the other leads to your enslavement to your man, his emotional state, and responses."
K. Even though.. it has some.. harsh words.. I agree.
"I still wonder if he is reacting to the "fear" he sees in you reacting from his anger."
"and I think it takes some men a very long time to get over being angry from that"
Sandi2.. please understand.. I love who you are. I appreciate.. who you are. What I am about to say.. is not meant to hurt you in any way.
I was over anything Sandi2 said to me... along time ago. I was waiting on her. I was over it the second I wrote out my response to her.. way back.
Please Sandi2.. do not take this the wrong way. I am glad you are here.. I need you here.. It is a example of how things can linger.. when two people.. just don't get each other.
"compliment his abilities, his craftsmanship, his going out of his way for you. recognize he may have had other plans for his day, but gave that time to you."
You could use this in your texting. You gotta read the fine print.
So.. Christa is telling me she wants to step it up some. The texting was a start for me.. just to get H to respond. Well we have two responses from the texting so far. The first led to "Pool Gate".. which we are dropping. The second response.. led to a "Whats Up".
I want to see her push the "envelope" a bit. I really want to see what he has to say.
Ideas to push the "envelope".. would be appreciated.
At the same time ideas for making Christa.. prepared for his "anger".. would be appreciated.
Cell pictures.. of her.. at "their" bar.. generated a response.
I have lots of ideas.. I just want to see.. if any of us agree.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Evening FG~ Nice to see you back around these parts!!! Work was a chaotic freaking mess...I was charge nurse today....and everyone's scape goat....I do not like being either of the above....i broke out in tears in my boss' office...it was not a good day
Plans to "step it up a notch"....oohlalala!! I'm ready for some ideas people!!! I sent about 8-10 texts on sat. night from "our bar" one that has been really special to "us"...2 had pictures attatched to the texts....he responded to that....any other GREAT ideas??? I did send him one last night about a program thru our conservation dept, to decrease his property tax...guess he doesn't need help with that...no response.
A little prep for the anger responses would be good as well. I'm working on becoming ten foot tall and bullet proof!!I have learned one thing, if i'm not prepared...don't answer phone or text!! Let it ride!!
Hugs to all christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
Okay, Forrest, this is where we run into a problem like we've had in the past. Are you saying that you are quoting something I have said to Christa? B/c I went back to look those quotes up....b/c I knew it did not sound like me....and sure enough it was not me that said it. You need to make sure who you are refering to when you say these things. As in the past, you got me confused with other people and that was what would upset me. I don't mind you quoting me, but make sure it is my quote. Maybe I misunderstood what you were saying about me in your post to Christa, but I assumed you were refering to the "quotes" you replied to.......thinking it was me. Look back over her thread and you will see who it was......just like I did. I could tell you, but I don't think it is my place. I thought we were working together pretty good here and I was waiting on you to come back with your "male plan", but please, please make sure you know what Sandi has said and not confuse it with somebody else.
Thanks
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thank you for stopping by...oh the saga continues!!!
