Right, deep breath. I could feel on the train in this morning that I was starting to panic about tonight and repeat my behaviour from Tuesday. So, that is not going to happen again. I am going to put my apprehension to one side because actually the bank account is going to be ok this month as h is putting his money in early. So if we don't come up with solutions tonight it is fine. I am going to repeat this to myself all day.
So the normal scenario for the conversation would be me saying
'So do you have the account open in front of you? I have looked through it and you have some personal direct debits coming out from it. Can you get rid of those and you need to put in �x to bring it up to zero and I will put in the same and it all should be fine.'
Ok, ok, I know now that that attitude must be really annoying to him. Anyone have any other suggestions? Other than me just staying silent I can't think of anything else but I think that might be annoying too. It would be good to get this problem sorted; it would ease a lot of my stress.
Any input/ critiques would be really appreciated as always
Deep breath!!!!!!! Here is the email I just received.
'Hi, I hope you're ok and having a nice day. I forgot that I'm going to the cinema tonight to see Batman so is it okay if we talk tomorrow evening instead?
Also I completely forgot (not doing very well here!) that I've got two gigs this weekend down in Kent with Jo's family. There's one on Saturday afternoon and another on Sunday afternoon so I won't be around at the weekend at all. It completely slipped my mind - if he hadn't emailed me today I wouldn't even have showed up! Sorry to have to put it off yet again, I hope you don't mind. I am definitely free the following weekend on one day so maybe we can reschedule.
Speak to you soon H. '
Seriously, what am I supposed to do about this??? What is wrong with the guy?! It is sooooooooooooo cr*p and really not good enough. I feel like he is taking the p out of me. HE is the one who wants to sell the house. While he is kicking his feet, house prices are falling and I am stuck in that house unable to move on knowing that I am going to lose it and that no progress is being made at all. I know I should have patience and all that but there is a fine line between being understanding and being a push-over. At the moment I feel like a push-over but as soon as I make any kind of demands he will take it as that and our interactions will go back to being negative.
I am not free tomorrow evening and I am also not free for the next two weekends so this will drag out even longer. I suppose the main thing is that the money goes into our bank account, that is the imperitive issue.
'Hello The only imperative thing is the Smile bank account but you said your money would go in tomorrow right. Could you just confirm that this is the case? J'
Should I mention that I am not in tomorrow for the phone call or let him bring it up again? Or let him just ring and me not answer - is that a bit petty?
Or maybe just say nothing and let him pursue me for once. He said in his text that the money should go in tomorrow it is just he is proving so unreliable. Maybe by not saying anything it shows I am taking him at his word and trusting him to do tasks.
Hmmm, if he already said the money would go in tomorrow, maybe you should leave it. Of course, tomorrow is Friday, so if it doesn't go in tomorrow it won't 'til Monday. Can you live with that? Give him a chance to do what he said he'd do, if you can.
Or, maybe a short email...
I hope you enjoy the movie. I won't be in tomorrow night, so we'll talk some other time. The account will be fine after you put in the money tomorrow.
