I can't imagine wanting a divorce, being involved with another man, and intentionally planting one on my soon to be ex-husband and making suggestive remarks... Do these people realize how confusing their behavior is? If we were in their shoes, wouldn't we at least be clear with our intentions? So baffling.
Does your wife do the same kind of work as you? Is that how you met?
Well, to be clear, she didn't plant one on me. I initiated that, but I was surprised she responded warmly to it. I guess the suggestion way back to plant a big wet one on her wasn't such a radical one after all. I do not think she is at all clear about her intentions, so it is impossible for her to project clarity. I would think with uncertainty would be some desire to at least explore the possibility of a real effort for reconciliation. But that has been the baffling/frustrating part for me -- there just hasn't been.
She works in the same area as I do, but in a different capacity. Her job is different now than when we first met, but yes, that's how we got to know each other.
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The thing I think was the hardest part to get through my head is that they don't really spend a lot of brain space worrying how this affects us. They're like kids who never consider the consequences of their actions. Unless of course it concerns money, certainly not our feelings!
I definitely agree with this. There has been little thought of the ramifications of her actions. Little more that what might provide the most immediate short-term gratification. Yes, like kids -- emotional immaturity.
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I wanted to add that I think we may not see their ramifications. Sometimes, we just can't be privy to how things have affected people or that they show us directly what we think they should. It just doesn't always play out that way.
