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Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Valentine #1563331 08/19/08 04:30 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 5,369 England A ACJ Member
ACJ Member A Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 5,369 England	Vali, I am so sorry to hear your latets news. My H having a baby with OW would be the final straw for me too. I hope you can begin to heal now. Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... ACJ #1563703 08/19/08 08:14 PM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,099 H happynow Member
happynow Member H Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,099	Oh, Val I'm just now catching up with your thread! I'm so sorry to hear what happened. Just wanted to check in on you. I hope you are doing as well as can be expected. ((((HUGS))))

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... ACJ #1563729 08/19/08 08:33 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA Valentine OP Member
OP Valentine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA	ACJ, thanks for your words... Surprisingly, I think I have started to heal...I asked God to show me the truth about my H and He gave me the answer. Now I know the time to move forward has come... Hugs, Vali Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... happynow #1563730 08/19/08 08:34 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA Valentine OP Member
OP Valentine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA	nlt, people make choices...that is all I can say... I am strong, I will be okay... Hugs, Vali Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Valentine #1564257 08/20/08 03:19 AM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,099 H happynow Member
happynow Member H Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,099	Hi Vali, You sound very strong! I'm not sure I would handle that as well as you have. We are still here for you!!! ((((HUGS))))

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... happynow #1564590 08/20/08 02:21 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA Valentine OP Member
OP Valentine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA	nlt, it has been 3 years of sheer hell for me and he is 180 degrees from the person I knew and loved. Everyone has their limits and this was mine...and not as if I didn't have a clue...he was seen with her a rubbing her pregnant stomach. That was strange and makes sense in light of what I have learned. I was ready to make the move...I need freedom from all this madness and have no hope that he will ever be a person I could ever trust. I think this is who he is now and I am glad I will no longer be a part of it. I have to accept that the man I loved died 3 years ago. Valentine Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Valentine #1565158 08/20/08 09:27 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 3,334 T Truelove Member
Truelove Member T Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 3,334	Oh Vali, I am so sorry about what happened. It would have been the final straw for me too. You know that I could have written your last post! I just think the same way. I don't know the person my H became anymore either. Yes, you are strong and after gone through so much already you will also get through this. I will be thinking of you. (((HUGS))) Last edited by Truelove; 08/20/08 09:27 PM.

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Valentine #1566166 08/21/08 05:55 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,839 Michigan S Santhony Member
Santhony Member S Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,839 Michigan	Hey Val, (((((((((((((Val)))))))))))) First of all, yes - realizing after MLC that they are a different person is one part of it. Your STBXH is completely different than the person you knew and loved. And - as you said - a limit was crossed. You will find freedom from all of this. It was tough for me at first, but I have found it as well as happiness. My XW started seeing my XBIL just months after being S - she just married him last month - just 1 year after the D was final. I think she still suffers from MLC and your STBXH maybe too. It won't be til much later that they realize just the wreckage they have created. Good for you that you won't allow yourself to become that wreckage. I know it has been a while, but you are a great person and one that truly deserves all the happiness in the world. As I said, peace will come and you will find your way back to happiness. I hope you are feeling good and take care. I will find you over in Surviving..... God Bless, Santhony Email: santhonybelieves@sbcglobal.net

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Truelove #1567738 08/22/08 07:09 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 3,334 T Truelove Member
Truelove Member T Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 3,334	Hi Vali, I hope you feel a bit better today. Have a nice week-end. (((HUGS))) xxx

Re: Diary of a Mad Hispanic Woman II... Truelove #1570417 08/25/08 11:29 PM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA Valentine OP Member
OP Valentine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,848 TEXAS, USA	moved over to surviving.... Valentine Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller

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