I think being there was a good thing but Scott was probably correct...she just needed someone there. But at least it was you. The jail time might be a good thing for her too. Forty eight hours to think about her life can only be a good thing for you. Maybe it will help her realize whats important in life.
Joe
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
Honestly Scott I see her once in a while but dont talk all that often. Especially these last 2 weeks since the kids are gone we really havent spoke. But when the kids get back I pick up my son almost every day so I run into her. Everything is brief but we do exchange small talk.
AD I hope that maybe this jail time does make her realize some stuff, but I highly doubt it!
There is nothing I can really do at this point except realize that we have to be friends in order for anything to blossom from that. All my intentions are now is just to become a friend, and if things go from there than so be it but I am not holding my breath!
Well the W just called and wanted to tell me thank you for being there with her today. She said it made things much easier with me being there and that she was glad I decided to come. She also wanted to thank me for the lovely lunch, gotta love BK...I know I am a big spender
I also sent her the pics of my D, she got her hair done and now is a spitting image of the W :0 I told her as soon as she gets back home I am locking her in the closet cause the boys are going to be all over her!! She looks absolutely beautiful with her new hair-do I almost didnt know it was her, looked like my W!
I am proud of you to have such a good attitude and acceptance at this point with being friends good for you. I'm sure she did appreciate you being there no matter of what capacity it was in, the fact was you were there.
LMAO Tink just now caught that, now that is humor!!
You know by me helping her out as a friend it felt really good! I am not saying I would drop everything for her right now but it did feel good to help out someone. I would do the same for any of my other friends why not my W.
Brian and Bill as far as the PMA goes it is still spotty at times, there are moments when I want to just cry and then there are others where I want to scream! But it is getting better, but the accpetance part is still very hard. I do not want to accept the fact that she is going to D me but is something I am going to have to face and am at one point going to HAVE to accept it, it sucks big time but such is life!
I have a new motto now: dum vita est, spes est--while there is life, there is hope!!
LMAO Tink just now caught that, now that is humor!!
You know by me helping her out as a friend it felt really good! I am not saying I would drop everything for her right now but it did feel good to help out someone. I would do the same for any of my other friends why not my W.
Brian and Bill as far as the PMA goes it is still spotty at times, there are moments when I want to just cry and then there are others where I want to scream! But it is getting better, but the accpetance part is still very hard. I do not want to accept the fact that she is going to D me but is something I am going to have to face and am at one point going to HAVE to accept it, it sucks big time but such is life!
I have a new motto now: dum vita est, spes est--while there is life, there is hope!!
Stay strong everyone!
Ted
Ted...
Your 1st sentence is a great attitude to have, if you can make that statement of doing the same for any other friends then you have reached a new level of detachment my brother good for you.
I truly understand where you are at, the mixed up jumble of feelings rips you apart. Moments of contentment, followed by anguish and anxiety, to full out tears, that is when your reach for that level of friendship detachment and look into the mirror and say I WILL be alright. Tackle 1 thing at a time, don't be like me and get bogged down it will leave you helpless stay positive and take 1 thing at a time and I will try in my sitch.
I like your new mantra, I may adopt it if you don't mind.
I am starting to like this whole GAL thingy majig! It is costing me some money but I figured what the heck I better start living! I decided tonight to go get the tattoo I have been wanting I just decided to go a little bigger than I had planned. 6 hours later I have just the outline done :0 Cant wait for the coloring to begin! Also went out and got a new haircut and some new clothes, all in all been a good day!
