I saw my friend nocode made the move from Infidelity to here, so I had to follow.
H and I are in mediation. Second big long appt tomorrow morning actually. My story is typical. Was told how miserable H was and was blindsided by an A all last summer (my H and a married friend of mine).
Fought like heck to keep us together in Fall 07. Gave up and gave myself and H peace around the holidays of last year. H's A fell apart about the time I dropped the rope, ironically. But he still wants to be single. Married OW is crazy by the way. Way crazy. H sees this now.
We have 2 beautiful daughters and I am grateful he continues to be the amazing father he always has been. I will never fight him on time with the girls, ever. We both work demanding law enforcement jobs, always on call, never work the same hours, so it will be up to us to set the visitations with the girls.
I am refinancing our family home in my own name, paying H his part of the equity. He will find a home of his own soon.
I am mostly at peace with the whole thing. My heart breaks for the girls. They don't know yet, even though H moved out in February. They are used to being with just one of us, and H being gone before they wake up. We are going to tell them together soon. OUCH.
SallyM is a good friend of mine, and she thought it would be helpful to move here to Surviving, to prove to myself that life will not only go on, but be wonderful. Thanks!
Sorry you had to find your way over here but glad Sally directed you because she is right. We do have fun but we are also here to comfort too! Yes, life does go on and will be as wonderful as you make it!
You have come so far. You are in a better place in your life than you were a year ago. You should be very proud of the mother you are and that you fought to keep your marriage together. you did the absolute best you could.
You have beautiful daughters who love you.
You are a on a new journey in life, and will someday find someone who will love and appreciate you as you should be.
Good luck tomorrrow my friend.
xxoo tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Welcome :-) Not that I'm glad to see you over here, but it is nice to see a familiar face.
Life does go on and it does get better. As we both know all too well it is what it is and you deal it with the best you can and live one day at a time. There will continue to be ups and downs, but you will do great.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Oh.. crimeny... my Infidelity thread just locked up.. It should probably be my last and I should join ya'll over here... I guess it's really time to move on with our lives, isn't it???
