Talked to a good F friend here. She knows WW a bit and I have been talking to her all along. Her take is that WW would have been out the door if she really wanted to be. More games. This is HARD!!!!!
I think she's got a good point. If she wants out so bad, what's stopping her? Because she's confused.
Be the lighthouse home (if you didn't read the lighthouse post on my thread, it's back there somewhere in the last couple threads. It's worth a read while waiting for a wayward to chit or get off the pot).
Hope4us
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
I printed it out and have been reading frequently. Thanks.
I really have to maintain the "believe none of what you hear". WW actually said that she could file and have the police come and remove me. Checked with my L today - HOGWASH!
More babble... more frustrations... more B.S.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Be the lighthouse home (if you didn't read the lighthouse post on my thread, it's back there somewhere in the last couple threads. It's worth a read while waiting for a wayward to chit or get off the pot).
Hope4us
H4U There is one part of the Lighthouse that confuses me. It says to remove self from any part of the chaos. Yet chaos is what we live in these days - hard not to be part of it.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Ok, 13 hours ago I was told there was nothing here, no hope, want out, don't care.
Today I get a vm (after non-communicative in the last 3 weeks) telling about where she is going, what's for supper. I respond with a txt acknowledging and suggesting financial disc tonight. Ok, we r on.
So what the hell? Was this a rope to pull me back in? What gives? Thought she DIDN'T CARE????
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Ok, 13 hours ago I was told there was nothing here, no hope, want out, don't care.
Today I get a vm (after non-communicative in the last 3 weeks) telling about where she is going, what's for supper. I respond with a txt acknowledging and suggesting financial disc tonight. Ok, we r on.
So what the hell? Was this a rope to pull me back in? What gives? Thought she DIDN'T CARE????
That is what they do. Only if no contact with other person can this end. They are like two people. Do not play her games. NO nice she better start playing fair and end A. Mine is EO affair it is no different. He won't end it and is a LIER and a man I never knew.
Now you know what it means "not to draw you in." This H*ll is there's to deal with detach from it and do work on you. If you succumb to them (like I have) it gets worse and worse. Be strong.
Me 48 H 54 Together 30 yrs M 29 yrs S 24 s 17 EA 10-2007 Denies it every happened
In my wife's case, I called this "St. Sally" (not her real name) behavior. It's pretty much script. They will act this way out of a combination of trying to reel you back in when you detach, and pure unadulterated (sorry, bad pun) GUILT.
I do find it so interesting to talk about dividing assets one night and have this happen the next.
Puppy, when you say it means nothing, would you say the same for her rant last night? Still believe none of what I hear??
Yep.
Learn to judge her by her ACTIONS (or lack thereof), not her WORDS. Only when her actions LINE UP WITH her words, OVER TIME, will you know that her words are the truth.
