Locked my own thread when I wasn't paying attention. The Happening yesterday was the rescheduling of D-Day from early September to July 21. I've accepted a position in Allentown PA, and will move in September. And we are going DB Rafting in September. I miss my W and M but they are both gone. My focus is rebuilding, not recapturing. Patty put it best: I got the ambition, sign me up.
Sometimes you find yourself flying low at night Flying blind and looking for any sign of light You're cold and scared, and all alone You'd do anything just to make it home
It's a mad mission Under difficult conditions Not everybody makes it To the loving cup It's a mad mission But I got the ambition Mad, mad mission Sign me up
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G, you are locked up. What I meant to say was that she has NOT accepted the idea of you moving on. She is still thinking that if she says "the right thing" that you will stop your move and she can keep things as they are. I was just wondering if you corrected her phrasing. kat
No, I don't think she has accepted it, but I give her no reason to think I am going through the charade of moving just to get a reaction out of her. I don't think she is hoping to "say the right thing" to keep me from moving, I have given her plenty of opportunities to keep me here. I think she fears losing the security that I represent. I see that she is confused, messed up. But I have been very frank with her, no emotional chess matches. I said to her last night - "You don't want to say what is on your mind, because you think you can't talk to me about it, but you really can." W: No, it's not that. gF: "Then what?" W: Nothing.
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G, you are locked up. What I meant to say was that she has NOT accepted the idea of you moving on. She is still thinking that if she says "the right thing" that you will stop your move and she can keep things as they are. I was just wondering if you corrected her phrasing. kat
No, I don't think she has accepted it, but I give her no reason to think I am going through the charade of moving just to get a reaction out of her. I don't think she is hoping to "say the right thing" to keep me from moving, I have given her plenty of opportunities to keep me here. I think she fears losing the security that I represent. I see that she is confused, messed up. But I have been very frank with her, no emotional chess matches. I said to her last night - "You don't want to say what is on your mind, because you think you can't talk to me about it, but you really can." W: No, it's not that. gF: "Then what?" W: Nothing.
Gforce-I truly believe it's all up to your W now. You are on a new ride now. If she chooses to join you on that ride then I don't think it's really up to you to "spell" things out for her. You've told her you're moving forward in a new place. It's up to her now. Seems like she still can;t make a decision, or basically, is just not going to. One way or the other.
She is truly a woman who has no idea what she wants.
Mike, I agree with you completely. You said it much better than I. The best part of where I am is that it is not happening out of anger, desperation or spite. I am here because it is the best thing for my future.
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The best part of where I am is that it is not happening out of anger, desperation or spite.
This is good to know and tells much about you and your character.
if you can do "this" and get through it without any of "that" then it will mean so much when you look back on it. You'll really feel good about yourself and how you handled "this" episode of your life.
I was wondering when something from this album would make it on.
I'd say, though, that she didn't say what was on her mind because she's probably confused about what IS on her mind. I've seen my W do the same. She's sold herself on one version of reality for so long that she keeps fighting it when circumstances are moving in a different direction, but she becomes confused and unsure. Eventually that emotional glacier calves, but it doesn't happen fast.
And I like a lot of snow too - just not in my driveway!
c'mon - snowblowing is a blast. Just watch the fingers!
I agree with your assessment. But if the response to her uncertainty is ongoing infidelity, I am not sympathetic. I really do hope the glacier "calves", because it makes me sad to see where her life is headed, and how much better it would have been if she had the maturity to work with me on our issues.
Hope you get less busy this week. Any plans for the 4th?
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Star Wars 3 will be on tonight, in case you didn't know. I think I will be brave and go to a movie, probably alone but that's ok. I have to choose between a break up movie that leads to GAL or Made to Order with McDreamy ... what do I choose?!! lol
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I heard Made to Order was pretty bad. I'd go for the other one. I hope you have a good time. I dozed off on the couch. Too much excitement in the gForce household!
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