I've been in Newcomers although my spouse moved out in mid February. I don't want to accept that he's doing everything in his power to end our 25 years together.
Like most, I never believed he would find a relationship outside of our marriage.. even while in our marriage. He promptly moved out within 3 weeks of saying he was miserable, two weeks after saying he wanted to live his own life. That happened mid February of this year.
We've both made mistakes. He's convinced our marriage was wrong from the beginning. He's living with his much younger girlfriend and has been since he left.. something I didn't find out until months later.
We have three kids, two boys , 22 and 18 (today) and a girl who's 13 and will be a freshman in high school this fall.
Whenever I have to do something to facilitate the divorce (as required by law) I die inside and feel awful.
Normally, I'm pretty upbeat, finding the silver lining. Right now I don't see hope and wonder why I should look. Doing so only hurts me more with a guy who's adamant that it's over, when he does talk to me.
K, you push yourself too hard. Words do not make "reality" the way you want it to be. Good thing is feelings-emotions do not make "reality" either.
I think you are safe. Worst part is over. For me it was just about where you are now that I started to experiment a little and would being very careful not to "feel" things. I hope you "get me". S
I'm planning on coming over here when my thread locks too. I think now that my H has been out of the house since January I should make my way here.
I'm sorry you are having a down day. I hope your new medicinal cocktail will pick you up some. There are times when you need a little bit of extra help.
I know it may not feel like it, but you are moving forward. You are becoming unstuck. Although there have been many rough moments you blatantly are becoming stronger through all of this.. so try to remind yourself that it will get better.
G, The title tells it like it is! It's hard to accept the irresponsible destruction caused by your H. Sure after so many years and 3 kids its wrong from the beginning!? I've heard that c&ap before!? Hope you get the courage and strength needed to travel this meaningless lonely road.
Hi Gypsy, I have 3 kids and they were 22,23,25 when my x walked. Married 30 years. So now I am post D 5years. I can tell you it wasn,t easy but there is life afterwards and the pain and hurt of being rejected and betrayed gets easier all the time. You will find the strength to get through this and be stronger than you ever thought possible. I never found the answers to what if's and why but now it doesn't matter it just "was". I think for me personally I will always bare the scars but I have learnt not to pick them. I wish you strength for the journey and joy and happiness in the future. Your children will bring you those things. Be kind to yourself and look after your health.
You'll find your friends will follow you wherever you go.
Thank goodness for Gary Coleman!!!