email conversation between my ex wife and I. What is she trying to say? I am so confused. I am willing to be given a second chance. (start from bottom)
From: miranda To: eli Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:37:05 PM Subject: RE:
nevermind. good night.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:35:01 PM Subject: RE:
I am really confused.
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:25 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
obviously you are over me. so im done.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:22:39 PM Subject: RE:
Why?
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:21 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
fine. i will stop emailing you all together.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:18:47 PM Subject: RE:
I really wish things could have worked out between us. I was ready to start a family. I know this sounds kind of harsh, but sometimes life doesn't turn out exactly how you want it to. There are good times and bad times and you have to just find strength to get through the bad times and hope for good times.
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:14 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
as of right now i dont have anything to look forward to. i thought that after you get married you have kids and live happily ever after. not so.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:05:52 PM Subject: RE:
It is, but you are so young. You have a lot to look forward to.
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 11:02 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
my mom was 22 when she had me and 26 when she had tessa. the other day i was lisening to a song about life being too short. it really is too short.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 10:58:37 PM Subject: RE:
How old was your mom when she had you and Tessa?
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 10:12 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
ya right. i probably wont even be married in the next 6 years.
----- Original Message ---- From: eli To: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 10:07:10 PM Subject: RE:
You will have kids before you are 30 I am sure of it. A few years isn't gonna make that much difference.
-----Original Message----- From: miranda Sent: Friday, June 20, 2008 10:05 PM To: eli Subject: Re:
i wanted to have kids by the time i was 27. ha if im lucky i will have kids by 35. everything i had ever hoped for has been flushed down the toilet.
I don't know your sitch and this isn't very much to go on, but it sounds like she wants you to fight for your M. She's feeling unloved and unwanted and you need to prove to her that that isn't the case.
It would help, of course, if you posted more than this - what's the background here?
who didn't want kids? was this the understanding going into the marriage? did someone change the rules? was there a bait and switch? cold feet? physical problem?
she divorced me. I didnt want to get divorced. I cried to her and now i'm finally able to do the 180 technique. She I keep acting like I don't care or should I tell her I love her?
I guess I said I didnt want kids. She divorced me for other reasons. I was crying to her all the time wanting her back, now i'm finally acting like I am over her and she is acting like this. Should I keep doing it? I want her back.
Here is what I would do. Do NOT tell her you love her. That will backfire. Simply show her. That is what she wants. She will get the message. You also need to show her you have a life outside your R.
In these situations, you never know how things will turn out. However, I think your chances look good.
Take Care,
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
