2008 = Crazy Year (Still)

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Well that was pretty easy.

Me: just wanted to let you know I talked to friend

WW: why? That was ignorant

Me: just wanted to talk to them

WW: and?

Me: nothing. Friend said I didn't say anything you didn't. (Not totally true - ww mislead friends in some areas). Just wanted to let you know

Ww: what? Friend said I said I didn't want D?

Me: no. Just wanted to let you know.

And the conv ended. Ww not too happy about it but tried to play it cool. This is just the start.

Feels good doing the RIGHT THING no matter what happens.

WW lost a lot of support from Friends when A was mentioned. Friends totally supportive of me staying put.

Funny, WW told other local friends that Friends said they saw it coming, could understand, not surprised, etc. ALL LIES!

Later

Feels good, don't it??

[lost_in_space]

Strange but true!

[lost_in_space]

Need some thoughts on OMW. She now appears reluctant to talk (assuming it really was her in the first place). Knowing the tidbit of info from Friends yesterday, I really want to let OMW know that the contact is carrying on (which I know for sure) and check whether he was out of their city last week.

Do I keep at it trying to get her to provide a contact # or do I simply ask in e-mail? Or maybe a leading e-mail that says "contact has continued - we should talk"?

WW really w/d last night. Up in room by 9 to read even though D16 and S13 had friends over and D10 was watching TV - so I watched with her. Feels like being a single parent already!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

LIS,

If she appears reluctant to talk, then there's not much you can -- or should -- do. I would simply send an e-mail, giving your cellphone # to call if she ever wants to talk further.

Puppy

[Hope4us]

I put in my letter to OMW "I don't know what kind of marriage you have and it's none of my business, but I love my wife and our marriage will never have a chance as long as there are three people in it. I would appreciate anything you could do to help me save my marriage. You do not deserve this and neither do I and I am only contacting you because I would want the same thing if someone had information that directly affected my marriage. If you do not wish to talk, I understand, but could you at least acknowledge receipt of this letter?" And then I gave her my cell phone number.

[lost_in_space]

H4U

I like that a lot. Thank you for this.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

H4U,

That's a very good letter.

I also sent one to OM's parents.

Puppy

[james85395]

Thank you so much for sharing your sitch. It gives the rest of so much hope and guidance on what should be done. I know you are going through hell but you are definetely doing the right things. Very proud of you.

[lost_in_space]

Thank you. It is most unfortunate that we have to experience severe pain to get to true joy, whatever that may be. I am eternally grateful to all those who lend support, suggestions or advice. Experience is the best teacher, so thank you to all who share.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

James,

I WAS going thru hell -- at this time last time. My wife ended her affair last August, however, and came to me begging forgiveness and wanting me to stop my divorce action. After two 3-month "stays", I finally withdrew the action earlier this year, and while we are still dealing with some long-term SSM issues, our marriage is strong and we are healing.

There has been no further contact, either with OM or anyone else. (And yes, I do still verify)

Puppy