Quandry.....is H looking here????? Not sure....hmmmmm
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Patty, Hey babe.... Guess what??? You are spinning again......BREATHE!!!! I want you to write one of those letters that you will never send and post it here. Get it out......
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I am sorry you are going thru this. I know how frustrating all of this is for you.
Hope you are enjoying Mistral!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
talked with H last nite...just the way he said a few things left me wondering. But the gist was hes let the intimacy thing go so long its really worked up into a block for him....hes agreed he should get C. But he pointed out he now was coming home and leaving his cell phone in the bedroom on the dresser.....i hadnt noticed...oops....he said he started a few days ago....he made the comment about "baby steps" which got me to wondering.....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Well how about this, just in case he is "peeking"....
You brought incredible pain to this woman, yet she stood strong for you and your marriage. Through infidelity and hateful words, she stood for you and your marriage.
Through the loss of those beloved by her and the additional pain that brought to her, she stood by you and your marriage.
When you said you wanted to come home, she was so happy. You could just feel the joy coming through her posts.
And then you hurt her again.
And again.
You say you can't be intimate. You won't say why. And now, MONTHS after coming home, just NOW you decide that maybe you should do something about it.
You continue to let the woman you were having an affair with be involved in your life by renting her one of your apartments. You don't see the pain that causes, ESPECIALLY after Patti found that you had STILL been bedding the woman.
Any true man would have vanquished this woman a long time ago. But no, you come up with weak financial excuses as to why she must stay. You proclaim GUILT for hurting the adultress, but ignore completely the continuing pain you bring to the woman you say you truly love.
I find you dispicable on so many levels.
But Patti loves you and wants the life you promised each other you would have. And you say you want that too.
So if you're reading this now, it's time for you to MAN UP in a big way partner.
You've abused her love for long enough. You've caused enough pain. You've strung her along for months in a netherland, not knowing whether you were for real or not.
Time for you to PROVE what you said is true.
Get rid of the adultress. No real man would still have her around. She was a mistake, and your time with her was wrong, so put your guilt over her to rest. She knew damned well what she was getting in to.
Get help for you problem. And while you're trying to make those parts work again, how about showing your INTIMATE love in ways that don't require your parts to work? A real man doesn't need his own satisfaction to give love and satisfaction to his wife.
You've got alot to make up for.
And if you're reading this now, you are violating her SAFE place, the place where she found the strength to stand strong for you, even while you were making her life a living hell.
Leave it alone and Man UP.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
Mistral is awsome. Im learning something new everyday. I took my 4yr old filly to a dressage show,,,her first time away from the farm. She wowed them ...winning both her classes and making her hi-score of the day. Thats what I do for me.....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
