Hi everyone - Thank you all for all of your help I really appreciate it. I have a question for anyone who might be able to help. Ok as I have said before my I am going through a D and my 36 year old H has been having an affair for over a year with a 50 year old woman that he works with. Anyway my H has been taking our 4 year old s out with him and his girlfriend to the beach, movies and to her family BBQ's etc. Ok here is my question.....Is it possible to put a stop to this? Can my L have him stop taking our 4 year s out with him and his girlfriend? It's really bothering me because when H takes them all out and then brings my s home my H will lie right in front of my s as to who they were with but then as soon as my H leaves my s tells me who they were with. I hate that my H lies right in front of s and that he takes them all out together and my s is so confused because he hears his daddy lying to his mommy. I don't want my 4 year old to think it's ok to lie and I hate that my s has to be with my H's girlfriend. Any help from anyone would be great. Thanks for listening.
I don't live in America, but over here, that would be impossible. It is your H's child too, and however awful it is that he takes him along whilst being with ow....there is nothing you could do to stop it over here. In my opinion you shouldn't try to stop it either....I can bet you anything that a 50 year old woman will find a 4 year old very very tiring !
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Well, I live in VA and you can actually have a visitation schedule state that visitation will not occur with members of the opposite sex that are not family members prior to a divorce. This will apply to both parents--custodial and non-custodial.
If the custodial parent persists in the behavior, the courts can order a change in status for the child--changing physical custody. If it is the non-custodial, visitation can become completely supervised, even going so far as to have court-monitored supervision--which the non-compliant pary would pay for.
You need to check the applicable laws for where you live. Google child custody and visitation for your state.
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