Question about MC's, please advise!!

[Augtan]

I have a question.....

It seems like from what I have read, most MC's say that they cannot do one-on-one sessions with each person and still be the MC, ours did have IC with each of us. We met with her several times, then she met with each of us alone for a session. Actually my H went twice alone. It killed me and I think was a huge conflict of interest. What do all of you think? I also feel our MC was insturmental in giving my H all the excuses he uses everyday for his EA/PA. After just one session, she was telling me that it was not just his fault and that if his needs weren't being met that is why he had the A. He ran with that. She did say it wasn't an excuse to have an A, but still. I know that things weren't good and that is why he had the A, but after one session to turn it all around to be on me when I was in the most emotional pain ever!!?? Just doesn't seem right. And then, to ask for a session alone with my H was awful for me, there were already all these secrets going on for months I didn't know about and she was going to have more with him in this session? I was not ready for him to be telling another woman more secrets, at all. I really feel if we had not seen her our marriage would be in a much better place. He wanted to fix our marriage and was so sorry and was begging to save the marriage until she put all these ideas in his head about how awful our marriage was before the A and such. Just wondering if anyone else had this experience? I kept saying I wanted to learn from the past but move forward and not totally rehash the past, but she said we had to start from the begininng to figure out how we got to where we were. I disagreed, but knew if I didn't go to her it would make H mad, as we had fired a MC years ago and he blamed it on me being too picky. Just wondering what others have experienced with MC's???

M-37
H-41
Married- almost 17 yrs.
Together- almost 20 yrs.
H's EA/PA-10/06 - 7/07
D-15, S-12, D-9
still living together
filing for D-6/08