Hi everyone! I have been posting over in the WAW forum for a while. I have been getting great advice from my lifelines tink, racefan, and bworl. But since there is more traffic here I would like to get other POV as well.
Anyone at all? I am looking for more input on my sitch please.
Ted, I posted to you over there. Racefan said you moved here. You'll probably get more responses here. I read your sitch.
Do you know for sure that OM is not involved in your sitch?? If you don't do you think there is anyway you could find out for sure? Has your W been acting out of character at all?? The testing at the movie sounds fishy.
Well I finally decided to chime in after reading all the other posts. I am in need of advice for my own situation. I will try to keep it short, but any advice would be great. Well I am here because me and my wife just recently got seperated. We have been married 8 years this September and been together for 12. We have a S6 and a D15(still trying toget used to these abbreviations). I guess you could saythe problems started a long time ago but I was to blind to the obvious what was happening. In the article WAW it describes me and my wife exactly. I guess I just gave up on trying in the relationship and treated her more like a friend with benefits as she put it. So when she told me on the friday before Easter I was shocked that she was that unhappy. Now that I realize that all the stuff she is talking was true and I see where I went wrong. Now that I understand that she was not just "nagging" to nag but she was really telling me there were problems and I failed to recognize them. So now I am struggling with how to deal with all of this and to help sae my marriage to the woman who means everything to me. I have started to work on me such as working out, getting out of the house and doing stuff and not being a hermit, and just overall trying to keep busy. I try not to get emotional but I always find myself breaking down and crying everyday, try not to in front of her and the kids but did slip one time and had a total breakdown. We do communicate everyday as I pick up my son and drop him off. I try not to hang out but she is always asking me if I want to stay and eat something or watch TV with my S. I usually decline and go about my ways. The other problem I have is that she constantly works into all hours of the night, and being how I am a full time student working nights she always wants me to come over to wake her up so she can finish work. This is where it gets confusing, everytime I do come over she tells me to wake her up in 15 minutes but wants me to lay next to her and hold her which I do. And she also wants to continue being intimate bu says it means nothing and to not read into it. I asked her why and she said I am the only guy she wants to be with. She also tells me that her heart just isn't into it anymore and she does not want to put herself back out there for her to be hurt all over again. I am going to stop here because I have to get ready for work, but if there are any questions I will be glad to help because I need all the help I can get to start saving my marriage. _________________________ I am-33 W- 33 Married- 8yrs T- 12yrs D15 S6 Seperated 3/23/08(not legally)
"Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer."
This is the story..
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Well I finally decided to chime in after reading all the other posts. I am in need of advice for my own situation. I will try to keep it short, but any advice would be great. Well I am here because me and my wife just recently got seperated. We have been married 8 years this September and been together for 12. We have a S6 and a D15(still trying toget used to these abbreviations). I guess you could saythe problems started a long time ago but I was to blind to the obvious what was happening. In the article WAW it describes me and my wife exactly. I guess I just gave up on trying in the relationship and treated her more like a friend with benefits as she put it. So when she told me on the friday before Easter I was shocked that she was that unhappy. Now that I realize that all the stuff she is talking was true and I see where I went wrong. Now that I understand that she was not just "nagging" to nag but she was really telling me there were problems and I failed to recognize them. So now I am struggling with how to deal with all of this and to help sae my marriage to the woman who means everything to me. I have started to work on me such as working out, getting out of the house and doing stuff and not being a hermit, and just overall trying to keep busy. I try not to get emotional but I always find myself breaking down and crying everyday, try not to in front of her and the kids but did slip one time and had a total breakdown. We do communicate everyday as I pick up my son and drop him off. I try not to hang out but she is always asking me if I want to stay and eat something or watch TV with my S. I usually decline and go about my ways. The other problem I have is that she constantly works into all hours of the night, and being how I am a full time student working nights she always wants me to come over to wake her up so she can finish work. This is where it gets confusing, everytime I do come over she tells me to wake her up in 15 minutes but wants me to lay next to her and hold her which I do. And she also wants to continue being intimate bu says it means nothing and to not read into it. I asked her why and she said I am the only guy she wants to be with. She also tells me that her heart just isn't into it anymore and she does not want to put herself back out there for her to be hurt all over again. I am going to stop here because I have to get ready for work, but if there are any questions I will be glad to help because I need all the help I can get to start saving my marriage. _________________________ I am-33 W- 33 Married- 8yrs T- 12yrs D15 S6 Seperated 3/23/08(not legally)
"Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer."
This is the story..
There's lots more out there..Jonzy..fill in the blanks here..
jonzy...lay it all out on the line these people have alot of wisdom, Forrest and MFT have ALOT of insight don't hold anything back ya hear me. There are others I have sent word too that are coming in so accept what they say they/I are here for you....
Well today has just become one of the worst days yet. Late sunday night I found out that I have lost a friend due to an automobile accident, he was a great guy and a co-worker! Then early monday morning I found out that my mothers kidneys are starting to fail and her overall condition is getting worse. And with all this stress I allowed my wife into baiting me into an argument and I just couldn't backpeddle my way out! I apologized to my wife and explained the situation to her which of course made her feel bad. I am at a loss right now but I have to keep on keeping on!
Will try to get back on and fill in some of the blanks when I have more time.
Well today has just become one of the worst days yet. Late sunday night I found out that I have lost a friend due to an automobile accident, he was a great guy and a co-worker! Then early monday morning I found out that my mothers kidneys are starting to fail and her overall condition is getting worse. And with all this stress I allowed my wife into baiting me into an argument and I just couldn't backpeddle my way out! I apologized to my wife and explained the situation to her which of course made her feel bad. I am at a loss right now but I have to keep on keeping on!
Will try to get back on and fill in some of the blanks when I have more time.
Ted
Hang in there and be there for your mom. She needs ya right now. Sorry to hear about your friend. I'll say a prayer for you.
fix it!! anyways here is my link to my post.